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  1. Member picture thread

    Today, it was Summer in Scotland, everyone's favourite day of the year...
  2. What went wrong with NUGNR?

    That is one of the things I hate most on this board, the implication that because my favourite shows were in 2006 and 2010, and because the line-up which performed those shows is my favourite in the band's history, I am apparently some sort of musical retard.
  3. What Are You Listening To 2016

    There are a lot of ugly things to come out of Scotland, but this is not one of them, audible joyous gorgeousness...
  4. The EU just doesn't work for Britain

    This referendum is so insipid and uninspiring. Both sides are pretty horrible.
  5. General Chat / Random Musings

    The one at the back looks like Timothy Spall...
  6. What went wrong with NUGNR?

    I hate the term "NuGNR". I think Axl could personally drive up to my door and offer me the entire contents of this mythical "vault" to do with as I please, and I would still be angry with him for getting me onboard with the CD era of the band and then fucking it up as badly as he did. Still so disappointed.
  7. The love/sex/relationship thread

    Nostalgia might be something to do with it, but I've observedquite frequently that guys in particular find talking about the fact that they're completely head-over-heels crazy about someone an uncomfortable subject because it's one of therawest sourcesemotional vulnerability that exists. Watch that you're not just grabbing at excuses when the simple truth is that you cared very strongly for this woman, strongly enough that there's still something residual years later even if it's not the burning all-encompassing emotion it once was. Our current psyches are a product of our memories, certain experiences irrevocably shape who we are and love is one of the most powerful emotions we'll ever feel, if she made an impression then chances are it's just bringing something of that back... I'm aware that people on the forum are probably sick to death of hearing about my love life (or lack thereof) although, hopefully if I ever go full McCoy then you'll all tell me. However, I have a similar story to you, when I was in 3rd year at secondary school, I was playing guitar in the music department one lunch time and some girls came up, heard me play and joined me. I was more than a little bit of a loser at school, these lassies were some of the best-looking and smartest girls in my year, way above me in whatever weird social hierarchy existed at that point in time, but we ended up talking and singing a load of songs together and I remember hearing one of them turn to another at one point and saying under her breath "I love this guy!" My confidence was non-existent at this point, so, despite being 14 and naive I didn't reckon it meant that she thought I was potential boyfriend material, nonetheless I liked that she liked me. Time went on, we became close, we sat next to each other in quite a lot of classes, we said 'fuck it' to the clique mentality of early high school, went to hang out with all the moshers, goths and general weirdos, which eventually actually became the largest 'clique' in school and the whole ridiculous system collapsed on itself. I'd say by the time I left school I was on friendly terms with everyone in my whole year group. It would be very difficult to be a straight, single guyaround this lassie and not end up having feelings for her, I'm not putting her on an unrealistic pedestal when I say that she's very sweet natured, patient, selfless, intelligent, astute, articulate, loyal, great fun, genuinely humble and naturally very beautiful. So I spent about 4 years completely in love with her and completely unable to tell her because, in my head from that first day I had 'friendzoned' myself, told myself that she would only ever love me like a brother because I had no belief in my own desirability and had seen the way she behaved around boys she ended up dating (and wasn't that fucking torture, particularly when they ended up treating her like shite?)and it was different to how she behaved around me. I felt that if I told her then I would lose her for good because there was no way on earth she'd say yes and it would just be too awkward afterwards. University rolled around and she moved away to a University in the Scottish Borders, the middle of nowhere, she ended up having a few long-term relationships, we gradually lost touch and I got her out of my system. Then she moved to Australia and we didn't see each other for about 5 years. Last October I got on a train and there she was, literally her first day back in Scotland.It was one of those friendships where it doesn't feel like 5 years has elapsed, you're more=or-less the same people that you were. I was travelling onward down to Manchester that evening and all I could think about on the journey was how she'd touched my face and kissed it... I wasn't in love with her the way I had once been, but it became apparent that I so easilycouldbe. I guess that's where I empathise with you the most. We saw each other a few more times over the autumn and winter, she came to my house one night, we met up in the pub, we were at a party together on New Year's Day when I discovered she was dating a friend of mine who lives just around the corner. I talked about it on here at the time and people were saying to me "You should tell her how you feel", but I have a strong belief that when an innocent third party's feelings are involved then you have a duty to back the fuck off, I like that guy too much to try and screw up his relationship for my own gain (and even if I didn't like him, I still wouldn't have tried because I think there's no honour in that kind of behaviour whatsoever). Then the two of us went for a drink together in January, we ended up spending nearly 8 hours in a bar, just totally absorbed in one another's company. We talked about more-or-less everything under the sun. She brought up the topic of relationships and how she wished she'd had a bit better taste in men when she was a teenager. I ran her through the gauntlet of all my insecurities, of everything that had happened to me in Mexico and since. It was amazing to feel comfortable being so honest with someone I'd always felt I needed to hide something from and I would have opened up about everything,especially since she said that she was viewing dating my friend as 'very casual and just because we're both there, really', but I had no idea if he viewed their relationship the same way, or if he was more invested in it. So I wasn't going to pull the scumbag move and throw my hat in the ring. That day I was honest about everything except the elephant which had occupied the room since day one. Nonetheless, I came away feeling completely at peace with the world. The following day, my cousin was diagnosed with cancer in three organs. After my cousin died, the two of us went for a walk together up at Loch Lomond, I found out that she was moving back to Australia indefinitely two days later, but may be returning in the autumn to go back to university. I ascertained that she and my friend from round the road were not taking it long distance and at that point I thought 'fuck it' and told her the whole story. One of the scariest things I've ever done (including witnessing that pyroclastic flow) butI'm so glad I did.She was so surprised and happy, I think guys have a tendency to assume that pretty girls just know that guys fancy them but I could tell that she'd actually had no idea (which is weird because back in the day everyone else seemed able to figure it out). I'll never forget the smile on her face and the understanding that wecouldbe more if the circumstances were right... I'm not holding out for it though, that way unhappiness definitelylies. Just living life from here out.
  8. The James Bond Thread: 3rd Anniversary

    What, you mean he's gonnae come back?
  9. Frozen 2 and LGBT activists

    I'm not just saying what I'm saying to "come across as right on", pal. I do legitimately care about social justice, and more so that those ofmy friends who're gay will one day get to the point where they never experience any life challenges or are subject to negative social phenomena of any variety, be that abuse, ridicule, marginalisation or neglect from anyone, because of their sexuality... What I meant was that I have never seen Frozen, I have no attachment to the story or the characters, so while I can appreciate the sentiment, if this character is gay or not ultimately has no real bearing on my non-existent artistic appreciation for the franchise. I think you've got to watch that you don't stray too far into the "equal but different" rhetoric that establishments frequently use to try and deflect movements for social reform from achievingrealequality. "Oh, women and men are equal but different, women can run the creche and do Biblical readings, they're just not suited to ministry" say those who are opposed to females becoming pastors in various churches around the world...and then there are other churches in which women have been ordained for decades and now fulfil exactly the same role as males and nobody bats an eyelid any more. You seem to be arguing that gay people should never expect to be represented in the cinematic mainstream in the way that straight people are, which is, I guess,the ethos behind this campaign... I think these people feel that their sexualityshouldbe viewed the same way as heterosexuality, to the end that we eventually lose the labels altogether and just have sexuality, where people fall in love with whoever they want and there is no 'homosexual experience'... I'm quite sceptical of the idea that a sexuality should have a 'culture' I think the existence of 'LGBT culture' as it currently stands is probably down to an 'us against the world' mentality, a sense of community artificially createdbecause these people have collectively been subject to so much institutionalised adversity throughout history. You strip that away and you just have individuals falling in love with one another... Do you feel like part of a 'straight culture'? Do you feel some sort of bondwith me over the fact we both find females attractive? Do you think that every film which contains heterosexual relationships is reflects a 'heterosexual experience' to which you feel a strong affinity? I sure don't...
  10. Your favorite GN'R gig of all time?

    Some of us liked that era better than this... whatever the fuck it is... that's happening at the moment.
  11. Frozen 2 and LGBT activists

    That's not really the way that I see all the backlash in this thread, or the motivation behind it. I really couldn't care less if this Disney character turns out to be gay or not, I have no personal investment either way but one of the key themes which has emerged in this thread is criticism of a perceived artificial 'shoehorning in' of gay people to popular cinema and TV in order to fill a quota because of pressure from a 'gay lobby'. I was merely seeking to point out that gay people have probably been chronicallyunder-represented in cinemaand other media for the majority of its history.The fact that a fairly modesteffort to redress the balance is attracting this degree of criticism suggests that the phenomenon I alluded to above, that a movement towards equality feels unjust for the privileged majority, holds true. There's a difference between your prospective "Snow White and the Seven Homosexuals" and advocating an artistic decision to make one of the female leads of Frozen a Lesbian. "Snow White and the Seven Homosexuals" makes it sound like the gayness is an overt mission statement and could probably be legitimately accused of 'shoehorning in' for the sake of it. Campaigning for a character who has previously had no sexual orientation disclosed, to be gay as an organic plot point,in presumably a much larger story, is a bit different. As I say, I reallydon't care, but then I'm not gay and have no personal investment. However, I can appreciatewhere the campaigners are coming from,people look for characters that they can empathise with and it must be a bit patronising to wish you could go to a mainstream cinema and see more characters you can relate to only to be told that you have your 'niche' and can't expect to be represented much (with some people clearly having 'moral' issues with you having any representation whatsoever and wishing you'd just go back under your rug). Having a high-profile iconic character in modern cinema in *your* corner might be a significant symbolic event.
  12. Muirfield Golf Club refuses to let women join

    Aye, but your garage bar is not as yet a world-famous drinking establishmentat which an association of pubsmay potentially hold a prestigious event but not for the fact that you couldn't explain why you normallywouldn't let half of them in... Ultimately,political correctness is usually just about trying to treat most people with a bit of fucking decency.
  13. Favorite GN'R drummer

    Brain, imohe's on a completely different planet in terms of ability, groove and entertainment value.
  14. Muirfield Golf Club refuses to let women join

    Nobody is bringing a legal challenge against Muirfield over its decision as a private club to permit only male members. However, the Open Championship has decided thatMuirfield may no longer host the tournament because of its refusal to become more inclusive, as is their right. It is also the right of individuals to express disappointment with the club's decision and to point out that there has still been no intellectual justification for excluding women, leading a sports journalist to conclude: "The Muirfield based Honourable Company of Edinburgh Golfers, have, at best, been left to look out of touch with modern thinking. At worst, they look like a bunch of selfish bigots who have no place at the top of the game."
  15. Muirfield Golf Club refuses to let women join

    There's really no place for this mentality in21st Century Scotland, the leader of our country's a woman, the leaders of the three largest opposition parties (if you include Maggie Chapman, co-convenor of the Greens) are all women... Women are well-represented in every sphere of public life here, and we should continue to pride ourselves on inclusivity rather than its opposite. I haven't seen any reasonably articulated argument from any of the members who opposed the decision, just that it is apparently a "very emotive issue"... Not good enough. If you're going to make such a decision then you should at least be able to justify why you made it.