Cheating

[YOUCOULDBEMINE.]

I'm not really the guy to talk openly about my personal life. But there's something that's bothering me and I don't know how to deal with it.

My girlfriend is at a festival in Hungary. And she texted me that she kissed someone last night.
To be honest I'm glad she texted me and told me the truth, but I really don't know how to respond to this.

I mean. If it happens once, who says it won't happen again? My ex did the same thing, and is now together with the guy.
So I'm kinda freaking out, which is ridiculous because it's pretty childish. But what should I do? We've been together for almost 2 years now.


Anyway, sorry for taking this to the forum. But I REALLY could use some advice.

[BreakDown2014]

Talk it to her and see how it goes. You'll know what to do in that moment

[Ace Nova]

Unfortunetaltely, I won't sugar coat things.

A ho is a ho.

A trick is a trick.

That goes for guys too.

If you're a ho....you'll (most likely) always be a ho.

So, as long as you're "cool" with it, she'll be fucking other guys during your entire relationship. (Sooner or later, anyway.... )

My 2 Cents.

Edited August 14, 2014 by Kasanova King

[YOUCOULDBEMINE.]

You have a right to be concerned. The first question that comes to mind, was she drinking? If she did it while sober, you need to have a heavy talk with her. Find out if she is remorseful, see if she also is upset about it.

Don't be one of those guys who lets something like that slide, because if you do she will never respect you.

She was drinking, she's quite the drinker too. But I do need to talk to her, because it's not something I'd forget. Even if I did let it slide.

Unfortunetaltely, I won't sugar coat things.

A ho is a ho.

A trick is a trick.

That goes for guys too.

If you're a ho....you'll (most likely) always be a ho.

So, as long as you're "cool" with it, she'll be fucking other guys during your entire relationship. (Sooner or later, anyway.... )

My 2 Cents.

You're right tho, no matter how you said it,

Edited August 14, 2014 by UcudBmine

[Ace Nova]

You have a right to be concerned. The first question that comes to mind, was she drinking? If she did it while sober, you need to have a heavy talk with her. Find out if she is remorseful, see if she also is upset about it.

Don't be one of those guys who lets something like that slide, because if you do she will never respect you.

She was drinking, she's quite the drinker too. But I do need to talk to her, because it's not something I'd forget. Even if I did let it slide.

And the next time she drinks she'll be bangin' someone else....and use the same excuse. Women are no longer any different than men.

Like I said, if you don't mind an "open" relationship, then more power to you. But that's pretty much all you have as of now.

So go out and get yourself some, son.

Edited August 14, 2014 by Kasanova King

[AxlisOld]

Drinking is no excuse for cheating, and that is coming from the founder of the "I'm an alcoholic" thread. There is no excuse for cheating.

[Ace Nova]

Drinking is no excuse for cheating, and that is coming from the founder of the "I'm an alcoholic" thread. There is no excuse for cheating.

Spot on.

There have (literally) been hundreds of times I could have cheated on my significant other and blamed it on alcohol. I never did.

I never cheated.

(Came really close a bunch of times but never went through with it).

[Georgy Zhukov]

I used to love her...

[Ace Nova]

I used to love her...

[YOUCOULDBEMINE.]

You have a right to be concerned. The first question that comes to mind, was she drinking? If she did it while sober, you need to have a heavy talk with her. Find out if she is remorseful, see if she also is upset about it.

Don't be one of those guys who lets something like that slide, because if you do she will never respect you.

She was drinking, she's quite the drinker too. But I do need to talk to her, because it's not something I'd forget. Even if I did let it slide.

And the next time she drinks she'll be bangin' someone else....and use the same excuse. Women are no longer any different than men.

Like I said, if you don't mind an "open" relationship, then more power to you. But that's pretty much all you have as of now.

So go out and get yourself some, son.

She didn't bang him tho. I believe her when she says that. Otherwise she wouldn't have texted me at all.

[Ace Nova]

She didn't bang him tho. I believe her when she says that. Otherwise she wouldn't have texted me at all.

If you say so. But obviously she would have texted you either way. Just sayin'.

Take a word of advice from Kanye.....you might just have a trifflin' ho.....

Edited August 14, 2014 by Kasanova King

[estrangedtwat]

I remember when an ex of mine insisted, swore on a stack of bibles, all she EVER did was kiss that guy, just that once.

And I believed her, cause I desperately needed that to be true. Everyone else in my life saw it for what it was, a flat-out lie, but I chose to believe the illusion cause it was easier.

I found out much later that yeah, she was fucking him. They even got married.

I'm more concerned by the fact she told you at all. If it seriously was a one-time thing, a mistake that will never happen again, then she'd immediately regret it and be full of remorse. She'd learn her lesson and never do it again. If she told you about it, it would only hurt YOU, not her.

She's telling you to relieve herself of any guilt. Make herself feel like the "good guy"....clear her conscience. Why? So she can do it again. And again. Cause now the precedent is set that this is a thing that happens and as long as she "confesses" then it's OK.

After going through that bullshit, I'd much rather just not know. If I had a gf and she was banging other dudes, please keep me in the dark. Ignorance is bliss.

[Jabberwocky]

At least she told you about it. I found out my wife was fucking around me when she accidently forwarded an email conversation with the guy she was cheating on me with.

[wasted]

You need to listen to more Too $hort.

[Crash Diet]

I'm not really the guy to talk openly about my personal life. But there's something that's bothering me and I don't know how to deal with it.

My girlfriend is at a festival in Hungary. And she texted me that she kissed someone last night.

To be honest I'm glad she texted me and told me the truth, but I really don't know how to respond to this.

I mean. If it happens once, who says it won't happen again? My ex did the same thing, and is now together with the guy.

So I'm kinda freaking out, which is ridiculous because it's pretty childish. But what should I do? We've been together for almost 2 years now.

Anyway, sorry for taking this to the forum. But I REALLY could use some advice.

Yes, Sziget festival (and most of the festivals) is the typical environment for things like these, but if your releationship is strong then you and your girlfriend will stay together

2 years seems pretty strong to me and your gf even texted you the truth so she will probably have some remorse

Try to focus on her honesty instead of being jealous Calm down, if your realtionship with her is not strong then you will find sooner than later.

My bet: your girlfirend is an honest woman so she doesn't fuck you up or having sex with an other dude or something like this

Drinking is no excuse for cheating, and that is coming from the founder of the "I'm an alcoholic" thread. There is no excuse for cheating.

agreed, but it depends on the MEASURE (or type) of the cheating. Is he/she kissing with somebody when he/she was drunk? not a big deal esp. on a festival, imo

is he/she fucking with an other person? now THAT IS a big deal

Just my 2 cents

[wasted]

TOO SHORT

Call Her A Bitch Lyrics

[Too $hort]

One thing's for sure...

You will get called a bitch... bitch

So motherfuckin' fast - bitch

Short Dog's in the house... beotch!

What's up bitch, you the cut up bitch

Fuck somethin' bitch, suck somethin' bitch

Look out bitch, watch out bitch

Yeah I fucked you bitch then got out, bitch

Catch out bitch, fuck that shit

Motherfucker gettin' mad, fuck that bitch

So bitch, pay me bitch

You can love me bitch, you can hate me bitch

Straight up bitch, save a bitch

Then pay a bitch, I don't play that bitch

Cause a bitch is known to get outta line

And a bitch don't understand, I'm on the grind

You lil' bitch, I'm all about the paper

When I leave bitch tell 'em all about a player

Go on bitch, c'mon bitch

Run home bitch, get front on bitch

That's right bitch, fuck off bitch

You get off bitch when you suck all them dicks

Get cut off bitch when I come home bitch

Shit ain't right? Get the fuck on bitch

Speak up bitch, say what bitch

Wanna pull me down, I'ma stay up bitch

So what bitch, do what you wanna do

A hooray for tolerance! like me don't want nothin' with you

I want a bitch, a real ass bitch

You can feel that bitch when she kill that grip

Hundred dollar bills bitch, I'ma still get a grip

And I won't feel shit when I get a new bitch

Lil' bitch, back up bitch

When I say you fine don't act a bitch

I'll slap a bitch, get smacked up bitch

Wanna get in my way when I stack up chips?

[Chorus]

I'll call her a beotch!...

Beotch!...

Call her a beotch!...

Beotch!...

[Too $hort]

You know what?

A bitch is a once-a-month funky cock bleedin'

Bitch fell in love but she won't stop cheatin'

Real dumb with low self esteem

Fuck a hooray for tolerance! she just met and won't be able to see him

Later on when she wanna get fucked some more

I said "Bitch, why you such a stupid hoe?"

You lil' bitch, you never could fuck with this

And every bitch that don't like it, she can suck my dick

20 years later, still settin' it off

Still talkin' bad 'bout them pregnant dogs

They ask me "Short Dog, why you talk so bad?"

Bitch disrespect me, get off in her ass

I'm pullin' hoe cards (time to learn a lesson real quick)

Ask me, "What's the definition of a bitch?"

A real bitch - she gon' know she one

Suck the dick, drink the nut, and say she owe me one

Damn bitch, you that bitch, can you do that bitch?

Move back bitch, say who that bitch... I don't know you hoe

I don't sniff cocaine, I don't want no blow

Bitch you a dummie - bitch, junkie

Bitch, funky bitch, punkass bitch

Jump out bitch, get the fuck out bitch, get cussed out bitch

Cause a bitch is known to get on my nerves

And a bitch don't really know when I'm on the swerve

I'm like "Bitch, miss me", "Bitch don't kiss me"

"Bitch, just lick me bitch"

You's a bitch, knew it when I heard the beat

Bitch ain't nothin' but a word to me

I told you ten times, all she gon' get is pimp lines

I'm Short Dog -

[Chorus]

I'll call her a beotch!...

Beotch!...

Call her a beotch!...

Beotch!...

[AxlisOld]

Drinking is no excuse for cheating, and that is coming from the founder of the "I'm an alcoholic" thread. There is no excuse for cheating.

Its not an excuse, its a reasonable explanation for a first-time offense. Havent you ever done anything while drinking that you would never have done sober? Obviously she is remorseful, she wouldn't have voluntarily told him if she wasn't. You don't throw away a 2-year relationship because of one drunken kiss.

I say give her one more chance, tell her if it happens again you're dumping her ass ... and keep your word.

It's the definition of excuse. "Sweetie I kissed another dude, but here's why you should be ok with it."

If you're serious about a relationship, cheating should never be a viable option, no matter how drunk. There is never trust again after something like that happens.

Have I ever done anything regrettable while drunk? Of course. Negro please. But I've never negated a commitment to someone. I've driven when I shouldn't, or fallen off of something, or said something I shouldn't have. Certain things should be a reflex even if you're drunk. Breathing, eating, not fucking around with someone who you aren't involved with.

[wasted]

You drink so you have an excuse to cheat.

[MEXzilla]

Ask yourself, how would she had reacted if you did the same? Seriously tho, 2 years is a lot of time, I think you should have some sort of idea if she is capable of more.

Edited August 14, 2014 by MEXzilla

[Chris1989]

Drinking makes me easy, so if I drink, I don't drink to that level.

Made that mistake when I was 17, nearly made it again in March this year at 24 - it's just easier for me not to drink.

Interesting to see if your other half reduces her drinking having seen how it impaired their judgement.

[Lio]

I would've advised your gf not to tell you. I've done that once and it loomed over our relationship for years, even though I haven't cheated since. So for me, it was just one kiss (wasn't even drunk, it meant nothing, but I still did it, don't understand why to this day, just couldn't resist), but it seriously damaged our relationship. I hope it has less impact on yours.

But, contrary to what others say, it can be a one off thing, doesn't necessarily mean that she will cheat on you again.

[UK SUBS]

Firstly sorry to hear this. But can you give us some more info?

It's kinda weird she txt you to tell you she's kissed someone -- I'm putting myself in HER position; why would she do that?

1 - she deeply regrets it and loves you? Ok I get that but you'd wait until I saw you face to face or I'd at least call you

2 - she wants to know your reaction. Does he still love me? Is he even bothered??

3 - she can't be brave enough to say it's over so she's putting it out there for you to say "fuck this I'm out"

Good luck

[YOUCOULDBEMINE.]

Firstly sorry to hear this. But can you give us some more info?

It's kinda weird she txt you to tell you she's kissed someone -- I'm putting myself in HER position; why would she do that?

1 - she deeply regrets it and loves you? Ok I get that but you'd wait until I saw you face to face or I'd at least call you

2 - she wants to know your reaction. Does he still love me? Is he even bothered??

3 - she can't be brave enough to say it's over so she's putting it out there for you to say "fuck this I'm out"

Good luck

Well, she was drunk when it happened. And she was still druk when she texted me pretty much right afterwards.

She was panicking. And I really don't think she wants it to be over.

The reason why I'm having so much trouble with this is because this is the girl that pretty much saved my life when I hit rock bottom. (Not getting into any details but I wasn't really on the right track anymore).

This is also the reason why I refuse to believe that there's more behind it.

But I won't know for sure what happened until she comes back.

[magisme]

CyHi!!!

Every bitch I had end up fucking the squad
No love in my heart, back then I wasn't that smart
But I went into some classes overseas
Now all I do is study abroad... Get it? Study a broad?
What I learned is that these hoes'll tear your buddies apart
Now it's Greek mythology cause I run with the gods

Street astrology cause I'm one with the stars

[MB.]

Talk to her when she comes back. If it was just a kiss, it doesn't seem worth it to end your relationship over.

It will be more difficult for a while, since you will have problems trusting her. But if it was just a kiss when she was partying and drunk, it doesn't mean that much imo.

Good luck with the talking. Don't start fighting imidiately, just try to talk.