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Have You Ever Been in Love?


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Tell me some nice stories. Or share some sad ones. I'm trying to figure out what this thing is, whether I've ever felt it, whether I feel it all the time.

Please don't turn this into a shitfest. Just discuss what to my mind is the most opaque word in the English language.

I love you all.

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The only time I really think I was in love was with a girl I met in about 2nd grade. We were really close, and as we grew older we were getting more and more attracted to each other. I finally had the guts to ask her out my sophomore year of high school, and we stayed together until after graduation :P

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People have such a complex list of criteria for what constitutes "love". I think the only person whose opinion you should worry about in these circumstances is your own. It could be anything from a relationship which has lasted decades and weathered financial and temporal hardships to a few nights of passion from whence you will never see someone again depending on what it means to you. If your long-term relationship continues simply because you're used to it and you don't feel anything anymore then it's probably not love; if your few nights of passion made an indelible impression on you and you recall it with longing for the rest of your days, you were probably closer to the mark there.

I was talking to a friend of mine a few months ago, he'd gone out with a few girls in school, all of them had been very attractive. I was explaining the complete feeling of loss and failure I was suffering after leaving Mexico and the girl I'd fallen for there.I talked about being able to feel someone in your chest, like a pressure point that could either make you feel incredible or turn into a burning lead weight, purely based on their actions. He said he'd never experienced anything like that in his life.

I've been told by various people that I'm apparently quite an unusual guy in that regard. I don't pay much attention to many girls, but when I do, I absolutely make sure they're something special, there's a vibe I get (and I don't get it very often) where I just think "Wow, yeah... okay!"

Love, for me is a while down the line after that, once you know a person a bit better, you start doing stupid wee things just for the opportunity to talk to them, they're the first thing you think of in the morning when you wake up, the last thing before you go to sleep and once they're gone from your life, you feel like you've been filled with acid... I'd say I've felt like that properly 5 times in my life, but I only had the confidence to act on it the last 2 times and it was only properly requited once (even then, it didn't work out).

So, who's been in love? My pal with his several relationships which survived for a while, who's never felt particularly strongly about any of them? Or me with my handful of failures which meant the world to me then destroyed me? I don't think there's any definitive answer, but I know what I believe.

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Love is just a finely tuned jealousy.

Desire in its knees.

My idea of love comes from a childhood glimpse of pornography on Youlube.

My reaction to someone's love is to think how stupid they are. How could possible love something without a soul.

Narcissist moi?

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Of course.

Currently im madly in love with my girlfriend of 2 years this October. Get it right and it's amazing!

d'awww ^_^

I have been and I am now. Almost 5 years and this has been the toughest but most rewarding relationship I've ever been in. For me, at least this time around, love goes past 'that feeling'...it is still there, but with things like pulling through tough times, being able to challenge each other and see ourselves grow both individually and together, those are the things that keep the love growing when it's right.

As has been said, there's not really a set 'criteria' for love and everyone is different in how they recognise it in themselves.

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Yes. Probably.

My relationship with my fiance: we started out as friends, started dating, and made it official. Things haven't gone terribly wrong over the last six years, so we're still together. We get on really well and are very committed to one another.

That romantic, lovey-dovey, head-over-heels, joyfulness? Never experienced it. But I trust myself that we would both be heartbroken if we split.

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Tell me some nice stories. Or share some sad ones. I'm trying to figure out what this thing is, whether I've ever felt it, whether I feel it all the time.

Please don't turn this into a shitfest. Just discuss what to my mind is the most opaque word in the English language.

I love you all.

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People have such a complex list of criteria for what constitutes "love". I think the only person whose opinion you should worry about in these circumstances is your own. It could be anything from a relationship which has lasted decades and weathered financial and temporal hardships to a few nights of passion from whence you will never see someone again depending on what it means to you. If your long-term relationship continues simply because you're used to it and you don't feel anything anymore then it's probably not love; if your few nights of passion made an indelible impression on you and you recall it with longing for the rest of your days, you were probably closer to the mark there.

I was talking to a friend of mine a few months ago, he'd gone out with a few girls in school, all of them had been very attractive. I was explaining the complete feeling of loss and failure I was suffering after leaving Mexico and the girl I'd fallen for there.I talked about being able to feel someone in your chest, like a pressure point that could either make you feel incredible or turn into a burning lead weight, purely based on their actions. He said he'd never experienced anything like that in his life.

I've been told by various people that I'm apparently quite an unusual guy in that regard. I don't pay much attention to many girls, but when I do, I absolutely make sure they're something special, there's a vibe I get (and I don't get it very often) where I just think "Wow, yeah... okay!"

Love, for me is a while down the line after that, once you know a person a bit better, you start doing stupid wee things just for the opportunity to talk to them, they're the first thing you think of in the morning when you wake up, the last thing before you go to sleep and once they're gone from your life, you feel like you've been filled with acid... I'd say I've felt like that properly 5 times in my life, but I only had the confidence to act on it the last 2 times and it was only properly requited once (even then, it didn't work out).

So, who's been in love? My pal with his several relationships which survived for a while, who's never felt particularly strongly about any of them? Or me with my handful of failures which meant the world to me then destroyed me? I don't think there's any definitive answer, but I know what I believe.

I'm gonna spend the entire podcast tryna chat you up now :lol:

'So Graeme, is that a that a set of bagpipes under your kilt or do you just have HUGE bollocks?'

Works everytime :D

On topic:

Yes...and I've yet to get over me.

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