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Josie Harris has a revelation 'With time comes wisdom'

VALENCIA, Calif. – A Floyd Mayweather fight generally goes something like this. For 12 rounds an out-matched opponent swings and flails and misses. And loses, always loses. Mayweather has never been knocked out, never knocked down, never beaten in 47 pro bouts.

Yet as the twilight of his career closes in on the 37-year-old, so too does a swirl of negative publicity that centers on his violent and allegedly abusive relationships with a number of women in his life.

Josie Harris, Mayweather's former long-term partner and mother to three of his four children, doesn't see Mayweather much these days. Occasionally he will collect their children in person, but more often than not they are transported using the jet service he uses for much of his travel outside of Las Vegas.

It's an arrangement she is happy with.

"(It means) I don't have to take a Xanax before he comes, otherwise I will be sweating bullets," Harris told USA TODAY Sports in an interview at her home 50 miles northwest of Los Angeles. "For some reason I still get anxiety when I know that he is on his way. I have no idea why, but I get really overwhelmed when I know that I have to be around him."

Harris says she suffered physical abuse from the boxer on "six occasions," the worst coming in September 2010, when Mayweather entered Harris' home as she slept, yanked her to the floor by her hair, then punched and kicked and screamed cuss words at her in front of their children. It was the couple's oldest son, Koraun, who slipped out of the house to alert a security guard to summon police.

Mayweather was eventually sentenced to 90 days in prison. It was one of seven alleged assaults Mayweather has committed against five different women that resulted in him being arrested or issued a citation. Last month, his former fiancée, Shantel Jackson, filed a civil lawsuit including claims of battery, false imprisonment and allegations that the fighter pointed a gun at her.

A year ago, Harris still viewed her history with Mayweather as a love story gone wrong. Now, in the light of recent public awareness sparked by a video of NFL running back Ray Rice punching his wife in an elevator, with even President Obama's weighing in on efforts to stop domestic violence, she sees it differently.

"I was a battered woman," Harris said. "I felt embarrassed about saying I was a battered woman. I felt shame. I felt like it was my fault. What did I do? I didn't understand what a battered woman was at that time. Now I know I was in a very dysfunctional, hostile relationship and a victim of domestic violence."

Mayweather's representatives declined to comment for this story.

Rather than be part of the sad narrative of domestic violence, Harris has taken charge. She has written a book she hopes to publish in 2015. She wants her own experience to serve as a source of comfort and inspiration to other women trapped in a cycle of abuse. She also wants Mayweather to get professional help, though she holds little hope that he will.

"With time comes wisdom," she wrote to USA TODAY Sports in a text message following the interview. "I hope his lessons aren't too harsh as he does have a good heart."

The heady world of professional sports and the adrenaline and glamour attached to it can provide an intoxicating mix for those caught up in the lifestyle. Mayweather is the highest-earning athlete in sports – he collected $41.5 million for his September 2013 victory over Saul Alvarez – and once posted online an ATM receipt that indicated an account balance of $123 million.

Harris believes the whirlwind, combined with fear of financial vulnerability and personal isolation, can cause many women to stay in a destructive relationship. Harris says she spent several years feeling sorry for herself, but counseling, therapy and anti-depressants have brought her to a point where she feels empowered.

Harris has no interest in pro football. She didn't know who former Baltimore Ravens star Rice was, let alone his partner, Janay. Harris says she unsuccessfully attempted to contact Janay on social media to let her know that she was "not alone."

The Rices were married a month after the NFL star knocked out Janay in an Atlantic City casino elevator — and one day after he was indicted on aggravated assault charges.

"I would definitely want to just tell her, to please, please, educate (yourself)," Harris said. "What it is that is keeping her in that relationship, make sure it's worth it. Because if they don't get the proper help together, then the chance of it happening again is very high."

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A son takes action Koraun Mayweather comes to his mother's rescue

Koraun Mayweather is home early from school with an upset stomach and is about to head upstairs to his bedroom when he spots something on the dining room table.

His mother tells him it is a copy of his statement to police from Sept. 9, 2010, the night his father attacked her. Koraun, now 14, had never seen it, and laughs when he sees his 10-year-old's handwriting.

"There are no commas," he smiles. "But it is pretty good."

DOCUMENT: Koraun Mayweather's statement

But as the memories of the violence come back, Koraun's face turns serious. He sits down at the table to talk about what happened.

Harris and Mayweather had a tempestuous relationship, full of fallings out and makeups but by then they were living apart. Harris and the children lived in an upscale area along Las Vegas' western edge, while Mayweather lived at his own property with Shantel Jackson, who had become his main love interest.

Despite having split with Harris, Mayweather was apparently unhappy at rumors Harris was dating another man. He came to the house twice, late at night, after she had been out with friends.

On the first occasion, the pair argued and Harris, unknown to Mayweather, called police, who arrived and advised him to leave. He did, but he returned at around 4 a.m. with an associate, James McNair. With Harris asleep on the couch, Koraun, at Mayweather's insistence, let his father inside.

Harris says she awoke with Mayweather screaming and grabbing her hair. She says he'd read affectionate text messages between her and NBA basketball player C.J. Watson, described in her book draft as her "summer love." Watson now plays for the Indiana Pacers. Efforts to reach him through the team were unsuccessful.

With McNair present, the fighter rained punches and kicks upon her, according to the statements of Harris and the children. Harris was later treated at a hospital, but she believes Koraun saved her from more serious harm.

"(My dad) said to lock my door and stay in my room," Koraun said, speaking softly but clearly as he sat beside Harris. "I sat there and thought about what I was going to do next. Just for like a minute."

Koraun's first action was to alert Harris' friend Georgia Parker, who lived in a guesthouse in the back of the property, that his mother was being attacked. Parker did not believe him, Koraun said.

"So I ran and I tried to go through the front door to go to the (security) gate," Koraun said. "But then his friend (McNair) came through the door and blocked off the stairway for me to go through.

"Then I went back into my room and locked the door and then ran back out my bathroom and then hopped over the gate and went to the main entrance gate. I just told (the guard) that my mom was getting hurt and to call the ambulance and the police."

DOCUMENT: Floyd Mayweather incident report

The guard called law enforcement and approached the property. Mayweather and McNair left before police arrived, taking Harris' phone with them.

To this day, Harris is unable to hold back tears when she recalls Koraun's actions that night.

"I just thanked him because I didn't know how long it was going to continue to go on," she said. "And I just feel like if he wouldn't have gone to get the help that I may not even be able to be sitting here."

Koraun Mayweather sees his father, hangs out with him on weekends and is treated to pretty much whatever he wants, including a Bentley golf cart, a photo of which Mayweather posted on Instagram this week. Koraun has been to big fights but knows one thing for certain, he wants nothing to do with the fierce world of boxing.

"We just hang out. We either watch a movie or something or go bowling," he said. "I find (boxing) boring. It is just like how people sit in the ring and fight for 12 rounds and it gets boring after a while. Sometimes they run."

Koraun says recalling the attack on his mother still makes him angry, yet the most difficult part to cope with has been Mayweather's refusal to admit to his actions.

"He is a coward," Koraun said, and he hugged his mom.

'Floyd's side of the story' Mayweather continues to deny allegations

Mayweather has declined to acknowledge in public what he admitted in court in a plea bargain.

DOCUMENT: Josie Harris statement

Until now, Harris had not publicly released the documents relating to the night of the attack. In addition to her son's statement, she has a dossier of other documents that paint a damning picture of Mayweather.

Mayweather has long denied anything serious happened during the incident. Even as he was being grilled about his alleged violence toward women by CNN's Rachel Nichols on her Unguarded program in September, he gave a series of non-answers.

"Everything has been allegations," he told Nichols. "Nothing has been proven. So, you know, that's life."

Harris said part of her motivation to write the book was to set the record straight.

"I wrote it initially because I wanted to get my side of the story across," she said. "There were so many different misconstrued stories in the media — it was all Floyd's side of the story, he was being interviewed, he was saying that it wasn't happening.

"I don't think he (thinks he has a problem). It doesn't sound like it from his interviews. He is still, four years later, if you ask him what happened in the home, he says, 'Where are the pictures? With Rihanna and Chris Brown there were pictures.'"

Harris says a detective took pictures the night of the attack, a fact verified on the police report, but she was never given copies. She also has a doctor's report from the emergency room, her statement, eyewitness accounts from two of her sons, as well as Mayweather's guilty plea.

DOCUMENT: Restraining order against Mayweather

In her statement to police the night of the attack, Harris said Mayweather threatened to make her and Watson "disappear."

"He grabbed me by the hair and threw me on the ground and started punching me on my head with his fist and twisting my arm back and telling me he is going to kill me and the person that I am with," she said in the police report.

Koraun's brother, Zion Mayweather, then 9 years old, also gave a brief but explicit statement about what he saw.

"He was punching her and kicking her. He was punching her in the head and he was stomping on her sholder (sic)," part of Zion's statement reads.

The report from Southern Hills Hospital and Medical Center says Harris suffered a head injury, plus multiple bruises to her face, scalp and forearm.

Yet Harris declined to testify against Mayweather in December 2011, a decision she said was meant to spare him jail time for the sake of their children. It did not change the mind of Justice of the Peace Melissa Saragosa.

"Punishment is appropriate," Saragosa said as she sentenced Mayweather to 90 days in the Clark County (Nev.) Detention Center, with 30 days suspended.

"No matter who you are, you have consequences to your actions," she told the boxer.

Cars and women Mayweather wants to own both

Floyd Mayweather likes to own things, of that there is no doubt.

A Las Vegas automobile dealer recently disclosed that the boxer had purchased a total of 88 vehicles from his lot alone, including 14 Rolls Royces. They are Mayweather's trophies, symbols of his wealth and success.

He has said his view of buying cars is similar to how he looks at women.

"Even if you can't drive 10 cars at one time you got people that got 10 cars," Mayweather said in a Showtime documentary, 30 Days in May, a production that listed Mayweather as executive producer. "So, you're able to keep maintenance on 10 cars. So, I feel that as far as it comes to females, that same thing should apply. If you are able to take care of 20, then you should have 20."

Harris said Mayweather sees his relationship with women as "ownership." She claims Mayweather would pick out the clothes he wanted her to wear during their relationship, would routinely scan her cell phone to see who she was talking to and convinced her that he was "my only friend."

"When I was in it I didn't realize that," Harris said. "I was like, 'Yeah, you are my only friend, we are a ride or die team,' and now I am like, no, I shouldn't have been isolated from my family and friends. (There were) the threats. After he would do something that would be inappropriate, feeling like he could make it up by buying me a pair of shoes and a handbag."

In June, Mayweather posted on Instagram that "if a female shows half her body, she is asking to be disrespected," as part of a rant about women's attire and what image it projected about them.

Shantel Jackson, in her lawsuit filed by noted attorney Gloria Allred, alleged that Mayweather kept her a virtual prisoner in his home and that she was only allowed to leave when accompanied by one of his employees. She also claimed to have had her cell phone monitored.

In the lead-up to his fight against Marcos Maidana in September, Mayweather courted controversy by wading into the Ray Rice saga, later backtracking from his comments after they sparked a storm of negative reaction.

"I think there is a lot worse things that go on in other people's households, also," Mayweather said, insisting that the length of Rice's suspension should not have been increased once TMZ released video of him punching his partner in an elevator. "It's just not caught on video, if that's safe to say."

While Mayweather's remarks about Rice might be seen as risky, boxing is a sport in which being viewed as controversial is often no impediment to marketability.

Pay-per-view buys are the fight game's golden currency, and while the second Maidana fight came in at under one million buys, Mayweather is still by far the biggest draw in the sport, with the bargaining power that comes with it.

In the circle he inhabits, Mayweather's word is gospel. His every whim is catered to, and wherever he goes a fleet of shiny vehicles and a posse clad in TMT attire — The Money Team — follows.

Harris says she doesn't miss the glitz and glamour that came with the abuse.

"Yeah, I would like to have a private jet," she said. "I have only got one car but it fits all of us, it gets us around. It is a nice, safe vehicle, and I wouldn't trade going back into an abusive situation to be able to fly on private jets and run around with Hermes bags and nice shoes. I would rather be barefooted, on the beach, in a tent."

Harris says she first met Mayweather when she was 17, and still believes she knows him as well as anyone. Yet the one conundrum that she still wrestles with is how Mayweather reconciles his views about females and his treatment of them, with his role as a father to two daughters.

"When he is comparing women to cars … it is gross," said Harris, who has a bubbly 11-year-old daughter named Jirah with Mayweather. "I wonder when he lays his head on that pillow at night, does he ever think about 'you know I have got an 11-year-old beautiful little girl that is going to grow up and start dating men. Do I want her to start dating men like me?'

"I wonder, does he ever question himself?"

http://www.usatoday.com/longform/sports/boxing/2014/11/18/floyd-mayweather-josie-harris-domestic-abuse/19221605/

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The thing that stood out for me was the "friend" who blocked off the exit for the son to go through to get away and get help. I have mentioned that I was an abused wife, and my late husband also had a "friend" that blocked the exit for my little boy to run away to get help while the abuse continued. What is up with that?

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He's not really intended to fight when he gets riled my dear, quite the opposite really, he's a professional, he's supposed to switch it on regardless of anything he might be going through emotionally or whatever in his life one way or the other. Thats sort of what it is to be a professional, to perform regardless, to tick the boxes, get the job done, which makes his infraction all the more worse, boxing is fundamentally about control, not the lack of or harnessing a lack of, it is about control in it's purest sense...which sheds an interesting light on Floyds behaviour in this context...very interesting indeed.

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A lot of this is cycle of abuse and big time insecurity, I'm sure boxing has a lot of "nice guys" like any sport who are humble and gracious, except when it comes to what goes on in the ring. They might trash talk to fuel things up but it doesn't mean they actually hate the guy before or after. Boxers spar at people they don't "hate" but their trainer is controlling things, but they know how to turn it off, and in a boxing match, every time the end of each round they have to stop what they're doing. When the guy is knocked down they don't keep going at it, but they have to step back. They might have it in them to want to beat the guy to death but they have things in place to prevent that. Even if they're nice guys outside of the ring.

They're psyching each other out and there's a lot of mind games played in any sport.

The mind games played in an abusive relationship tends to be worse than anything physical, but men being abused by women isn't discussed much.

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He's not really intended to fight when he gets riled my dear, quite the opposite really, he's a professional, he's supposed to switch it on regardless of anything he might be going through emotionally or whatever in his life one way or the other. Thats sort of what it is to be a professional, to perform regardless, to tick the boxes, get the job done, which makes his infraction all the more worse, boxing is fundamentally about control, not the lack of or harnessing a lack of, it is about control in it's purest sense...which sheds an interesting light on Floyds behaviour in this context...very interesting indeed.

And Tyson, and Rice (in other sports) and others. Most guys, I allow, are not violent inappropriately. Including professional athletes. But when they are, woo hoo. With athletes, though there is the strength added to the rage, as the article suggests. It's like a pit bull. They don't actually bite more than other dogs, but when they do, that powerful jaw does serious damage.

But I do think pro-athletes are encouraged to "talk smack" when agitated or even when getting prepared to do what they need to do. But sometimes that can flow over into heated personal situations. You have seen it during those times when boxers meet before a match. They lose it and start fighting. You see it with football players and others. Heck, I saw it once in women's curling.

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