Gracii Guns Posted August 15, 2016 Share Posted August 15, 2016 In a bit of a pickle. I run a website with a couple of people who I became friends with after establishing professional relationships with them. Myself and one other guy are pretty chilled and enjoy it for what it is, but the other person is more and more using it as a self-promotion platform. The main guy who runs it was asked to cover an event, but couldn't make it, so sent myself and the other person. I wrote the article and saved it, letting the other person add her thoughts. She just copied and pasted the article from our website (before it was published) and posted it on her personal blog. The article I wrote is still unfinished. She wasn't invited to cover the event, the website we collectively work for was, so this is a really selfish move. She was complaining that she "never gets invited to review things" then this happens and she exploits it. While we've occasionally questioned her logic, but this is the first big "problem" she's caused. We want to nip this in the bud, as I've seen journalists do similar things before, and it tends to create monsters. So… shall we just stop letting her attend events? Or do we try to actively push her away? (I.e. sack her). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orsys Posted August 15, 2016 Share Posted August 15, 2016 If it is the first real problem, then you may need the "warning" discussion to make clear the inappropriate behaviour anf that it cannot be tolerated in the future. Establish that it was inappropriate and disrespectful to her colleagues.. She may be offended. But you are already offended so you need to clear the air anyway. I always hated discussions like these, but they are absolutely necessary at times and you do her a favour in the long run. Or it leads to her leaving one way or the other. Some people just don't fit well. It is not a right or wrong, just the way it is. Good luck, GG. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gracii Guns Posted August 15, 2016 Author Share Posted August 15, 2016 3 minutes ago, Orsys said: If it is the first real problem, then you may need the "warning" discussion to make clear the inappropriate behaviour anf that it cannot be tolerated in the future. Establish that it was inappropriate and disrespectful to her colleagues.. She may be offended. But you are already offended so you need to clear the air anyway. I always hated discussions like these, but they are absolutely necessary at times and you do her a favour in the long run. Or it leads to her leaving one way or the other. Some people just don't fit well. It is not a right or wrong, just the way it is. Good luck, GG. Thank you Orsys (great to see you ). I've since found out it's the second time she's done this. As you recommended, we've each told her how we think what she did was unprofessional, in the friendliest way possible, with lots of smiley emojis. We shall wait and see if it continues. She isn't a perfect fit, but she has some skills which the other guy and myself lack. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoulMonster Posted August 15, 2016 Share Posted August 15, 2016 41 minutes ago, Gracii Guns said: Thank you Orsys (great to see you ). I've since found out it's the second time she's done this. As you recommended, we've each told her how we think what she did was unprofessional, in the friendliest way possible, with lots of smiley emojis. We shall wait and see if it continues. She isn't a perfect fit, but she has some skills which the other guy and myself lack. Don't get too heavy on the smileys. A reprimand is a reprimand and should be understood as such. I completely agree with @Orsys. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gracii Guns Posted August 15, 2016 Author Share Posted August 15, 2016 Thanks guys. She took the criticism well. She says that she just didn't know, a display of naivety from someone who is very confident and gung-ho about everything she does. Fair enough, we all have gaps in our knowledge. I think this was all handled well and nobody seems upset. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snake-Pit Posted August 23, 2016 Share Posted August 23, 2016 (edited) It's can be tough firing people sometimes especially when working with friends (and family); but just be yourself and let them know 'it isn't working out' or that the company's heading in a new direction; Let them know you still love them, then give them a helpful reference so they'd find other work easier Edited August 23, 2016 by Snake-Pit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny Drama Posted August 23, 2016 Share Posted August 23, 2016 As someone that's lost a job before and got mad sandy in the vaginal region as a result, I'd lay the situation out on the table. Tell her your exact thoughts no matter how deep they are, both personal and professional. She can only then conform to your established norms or rebel and proceed to be given the arse in a most fiery end. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gracii Guns Posted August 24, 2016 Author Share Posted August 24, 2016 Just want to say thanks for all the answers to this. The situation described was easily resolved, and now I understand better of how she views the world, I will be more sympathetic to that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dazey Posted August 24, 2016 Share Posted August 24, 2016 On 23 August 2016 at 0:34 PM, Snake-Pit said: It's can be tough firing people How the fuck would you know? The only people you've ever ejected never made it as far as the egg! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spunko12345 Posted August 24, 2016 Share Posted August 24, 2016 16 minutes ago, Dazey said: How the fuck would you know? The only people you've ever ejected never made it as far as the egg! Too be fair he must have been fired a shitload of times so he does have some relevant experience in this topic. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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