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  1. On 11 August 2015 at 2:30 AM, Axls Rocket Queen said:

    Wedding dress modifications have begun! ^_^ (excuse our laundry and my sunburn)

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    Also I didn't lose my arm :lol: just realised I look like an amputee

    That looks sensational for £130. ?

    I read that you took the sleeves off and I think it would look amazing with a little cap sleeve added to the shoulder, using the scalloped end of the old sleeves. You can literally hand sew them to the underside of the shoulder. It's really easy and would look really delicate and reflect the scalloped detail on the hem. 

    But it looks great even without any sleeve at all. ?

    And don't worry about a train.....they're beautiful but most of the time you're wearing the dress the train has to be bustled up so you don't trip on it and it looks quite messy and gets really filthy even for the hour and half that the train is out. ?

  2. 16 hours ago, Len B'stard said:

    Now heres a blessed child of God I've not seen in a while, how you doin girlie? :)

    Hello again. Long time no see. ?

    I'm doing great but feeling somewhat disoriented as this place looks nothing like it used to. :wow:

  3. I love this place but I find the recent influx of advertising to be really annoying. As in, REALLY annoying. :max:

    I am finding, especially on my phone, that updates on threads or sections (ie, Anything Goes) take ages to load, because of the advertising, however, the ads change and load without a hitch (how fortunate :awesomeface:). But the actual content takes forever.

    It fucking shits me when we (as supporters, whether paid or unpaid, and the life blood of this forum) are told that certain behaviour and 'pictures' will not be tolerated and as a consequence we are made to tolerate corporate JUNK. And from now on those who contribute to the lifeblood of this forum now have to second guess everything we post, whilst we are infiltrated with mindless shit. I'll personally make a point of not supporting any company that 'supports' this forum via advertising. It's not the first time I've done this. I used to work in the advertising industry and I know that these companies are appalling and can do better.

    It's sad that the corporate voice speaks stronger than our individual voices. I won't leave here as a result but I won't be silenced. It's mind numbingly sad.

    I suspect that this is also why the Use Your Illusion section has been deleted. :max:

  4. Man, any group who are historically the most powerful are going to struggle to make concessions for the sake of equality, how many times have you heard the bullshit phrase "I just feel like it's not okay to be a straight, white, protestant male anymore..." or similar depending on the country you're in? These people are being made to confront a fraction of the discrimination that has been perpetrated in their name against minorities throughout history and they feel so fucking entitled that they throw the toys out of the pram when they are perceived to be disadvantaged even a little bit.

    That doesn't mean I believe in "positive discrimination", not choosing someone for a job because they are a straight, white, protestant male is every bit as bad as not choosing someone who isn't; true equality should mean the best candidate for the job gets it regardless of what the fuck they are, physically, culturally, spiritually etc. It's a difficult line to tread tbh.

    I agree with your first paragraph and it's essentially what I wanted to post. I disagree with the second part though. Power structures have a strong inertia to them, be it forced by the group in power or occurring by default and you need positive discrimination for some time to counteract that. If a position is seen as unattainable no effort will be made to attain it and it actually becomes unattainable then. If, for example, women think it's impossible to be a high ranking executive for a company they will make no effort to become one because it's not worth it; boardrooms, CEOs etc will take in the statistical anomaly of strangely few women being qualified to be executives and it becomes an entrenched rule: women can't be executives. The situation is self-perpetuating. So you can trust the companies themselves to make the experiment: ok, let's try some women too, who knows maybe this massive potential workforce can yield us some good hiring opportunities but who's going to go against the sure thing and make a bet? Not many. It doesn't even have to a malicious thing, it's just rational discrimination. The only way to counteract that is by outside intervention, namely rules, regulations, laws.

    I'm not sure regulation would be necessary, though. The "thinking it's impossible so not bothering" does dissuade the majority, yes, but like you said there are a few who take on the challenge and succeed. My thinking is that as that small number of women increases, less women will see executive positions unattainable.

    I agree with that completely, but I also think there is a fundamental aspect at play here, a physiological aspect of femininity.....women are generally not very aggressive. Some can be but the majority are not fundamentally aggressive, whether it be a mental or physical attitude. It's neither right nor wrong, it's just a reality of what most females are: nurturing, caring, organisational. And the unfortunate reality is that most high end corporate environments are aggressive and require an ability to continually sustain a degree of aggressiveness to maintain power. Men are fundamentally more suited to those environments.

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  5. Up until 40 years ago, men had their place, and women had theirs....it worked for thousands of years... Why change now?

    Because 40 years ago most men and women were generally happy with this:

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    And now they want this:

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    And most of them want this as well. Actually, make that two of these....one car per household will never do these days:

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  6. If I understand this right, men are upset because women have had it too good and as a result men have been emasculated. They want their rights back and women should return to "their place" as nature dictates. This is primarily cooking and cleaning and having babies. Feminism is the cancer that goes against nature.

    If this is true, then they should also be happy to accept the current ratio of household debt as 100% their own. This graph shows the increasing rate of debt in relation to income. Increasing property rates are largely responsible......but hey, if they want to take that on entirely themselves in exchange for women shutting their traps and cooking, cleaning and popping out offspring......let's see how they cope with that. :awesomeface:

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    http://www.afr.com/p/business/property/house_prices_flash_red_record_debt_MPI3fve6eztNMyT62R4P1J

    You can't have your cake and eat it too. :lol:

  7. No, just tired of you blaming us for you're supposed lack of independence yet expecting us to fucking buy everything. :lol:

    I buy everything I want with my own fucking money and my other half learnt long ago that if he wants to raise his eyebrows at yet another pairs of shoes arriving in the mail then he can happily take on the payment of the gas, the electricity, the communications, the rates, the fuel, the groceries, the Christmas presents, the birthday presents, the insurance policies, the vet bills, the home maintenance bills.......singlehandedly. :awesomeface:

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  8. The femenists I know (allegedly) refuse to give head because they think it empowers men. Fuck them...

    Then they're not very good at giving head. :lol:

    Quite the opposite is actually true......if only they cared enough [perhaps about their male lovers] to find out. :awesomeface:

  9. It is a hugely real thing and a lot of men do think that way but y'know i think there's a difference between what comes out of our mouth when we are asked for our opinion and what he act upon in day to day life.

    My only problem with this kinda stuff, or principle problem with this kinda stuff, is that i don't think I'm equipped to speak for other guys. Y'know how in these situations it's almost a silent agreement that there's some cross-gender consensus about all these key issues and aspects of the whole experience so uh, i dunno, I'm not personally upset no but then I'm kinda attached to females, girls can get away with a lot in my book, I'm a lot harder on guys, with girls its just like 'oh, you so crazy girl!' :lol:

    Anyway, fuck em, let em be upset if they wanna, enjoy your time while it's here, if it's even here.

    In the discussion the other night the couple of guys who were really into this stuff mainly rolled their eyes when a woman spoke, but were passionate when trying to convince the other guys of prejudices against men. .the other men started to agree. It was stuff about divorce settlements and custody rights. Sure these are the hot topics to win people over because you can always come up with examples where men appeared to be the losers against the evil woman who did nothing but eat bonbons and make dastardly plans against the man who was oblivious that there were problems. My experience for some years now is that pendulum is swinging more in favour of men. They didn't want to hear any of that.

    I have brothers and a son and want them to have equsl rights. Why would I, as a woman, conspire against them?

    Don't worry your pretty little heads about it boys. We're not outta get you :)

    If the people you're hanging out with have these beliefs, you're hanging out with the wrong people. I mean seriously, a male (I won't refer to him as a 'man') who rolls his his eyes when a woman SPEAKS sounds like a fucking cunt to me. And I know that's harsh language on your side of the world, but so be it. Anyone who rolls his eyes at a natural born human being speaking is fucked in the head. I would actually leave if any men I was socialising with made such a reference. I just know that I like to exist, I like to live, I like to work and I know that my household contribution financially is essential to our way of life. Even if I didn't work and I was raising children I would know that my contribution to the household meant that I HAVE A RIGHT TO A VOICE.

    I personally am not acquainted with any men who have expressed these opinions. In fact, the men I have the closest relationships with have quite the opposite view. They respect women, appreciate the contribution they make to the economy and to the household. Personally, I think it's a responsibility of men to acknowledge the contribution that women make to this world and to their femininity and it's a responsibility of women to acknowledge the contribution that men make to this world and to their masculinity. I guess for the men you refer to the latter is not happening. But considering the fact that the world was for centuries (possibly millennia if we really want to get technical) geared to the favour of men I think women can be given a reprieve of judgment for just a little while. :shrugs:

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  10. So ARQ and her fella have been in Paris a few days now. I'm putting my money on that she comes back with a diamond bigger than her face.

    Or at least a fancy handbag.

    Fortunately for jewellers these days you can buy an amazing rock cheaper than you can a fancy handbag. Yep, it's crazy, but it's true. :wacko:

  11. I live in a posh neighbourhood but I do fuck all to my garden out front because it's so much work and I have trouble maintaining it. My partner works so many hours he doesn't have time. For a few years the neighbours on our right were pretty grumpy until they saw me one day out front cutting the grass with a 'whipper snipper'. I've done that periodically and they've been much nicer to me since then but I don't maintain the garden as everyone else in the street does. I do notice from time to time that they've cut the grass on my front nature strip for me, which is really nice. Especially considering how snobby some people here can be. I appreciate that, although I'm not sure whether they're doing it out of kindness or "I can't bare the sight so I'll do it myself". :lol:

    The neighbour on the left is a bitter old cunt who is grumpy because he wanted to buy the land we are on when he developed the site next to us and he was rejected. But he did help me get a huge spider off my dashboard one morning, so he redeemed himself by showing a streak of kindness I never knew was there. :)

    People are generally pretty cool, I think.

  12. Monday night margaritas and fish and chips!!! :awesomeface:

    Add to that the fact I don't have to get up to an alarm for the next 13 days and in the last 3 days I've had 33 hours of sleep, I'm feeling pretty great!!! :D

    And then add to that the fact that today I bought myself a pair of Georg Jensen earrings for Christmas (which I had been lusting over since August) and I'm just beside myself with jollies. Hehehehe!!!!

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  13. Any updates Gracii?

    I'm not considering these things, it's too early for this, but I just wanted to know opinions.

    What's the minimum time in a relationship before you would bring up moving in together, and then to actually do it?

    Would you even consider it if you weren't engaged?

    I've got a few friends who have gotten engaged but not moved in together yet, and it just seems a bit odd to me that you would start towards a life commitment without knowing if you could live together?

    If you get engaged to someone before you've lived together, even for 6 months, you're nuts.

    If you get engaged without having gone through a couple of crisis together (however long that takes), you're taking huge risks.

    When you take huge risks, the result is 100% your own responsibility.

    Don't worry about what everyone else is doing. Use your own moral compass to make decisions. If everything falls apart no one else will be there to claim responsibility.

  14. Got home from a truly horrible day at work today to be told that we're being kicked out of the flat we rent so my landlord can keep his multi-occupancy licence. He told us that it would be fine for me to move in 6 months ago.

    We live in a really expensive city, neither of us earn much and I need to live near the station so I can travel to work. We're already renting the bottom of the barrel, sharing a toilet and bathroom, with no washing machine, microwave or other considerably normal things.

    We have no idea where to go right now. There is a flat downstairs, but it is much smaller, and the bills are higher as it is self-contained. We might take it, but it doesn't have a separate bedroom, we'd have our bed in the living room. Not nice if we ever had visitors.

    I was wondering when marriage would get as difficult as they said it would. :(

    Sorry to hear this Grace. Life can be so brutal sometimes. But I know that you guys will do what's necessary to come through it. That's the measure of a strong relationship. Remember, there's two of you to deal with this situation so you have double the strength to tackle it. :)

    And you know what? You might actually end up with something better.

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