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Chris1989

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  1. 100% agree. Just because some people are ashamed of the flag due to association with flag shagging little Englanders doesn't mean we should turn our back on the flag. If anything we should reclaim it.
  2. Just found out I am £20-30k short on what I need for a mortgage. £85k deposit, earning £42k a year. I want a 5x salary mortgage, and I can only get 4x salary because of high interest rates and the fact i pay for childcare. I'm going to have to move in with my parents for a while, but would at least be saving about £1000 a month whilst I am there. If interest rates dropped to say 4% instead of 5%, I increase my salary by £2k/year, and I stop paying for childcare (finish August 2025) then I will easily get the £190-200k that I want to borrow. It's a fucking joke that I can afford the repayments easily, but I can't get the mortgage because Computer Says No.
  3. Sent her the separation agreement last night. Feels good to finally be putting it to bed. Just need to get the money out of her to actually pay for the divorce.
  4. Amazon returnless refunds are mental. I wonder how many people scam them, and what the cost is.
  5. Pappytron or the actual Purple Aki? The latter is dead isn't he?
  6. I do - a 3 year old daughter
  7. Getting divorced through a long and painful drawn out distancing of our relationship, which built up to a really poorly handled "I don't love you" from my wife. It happened 2 months ago today. I feel like yesterday was the first day that I snapped out of my funk. I thought I had before, but it wasn't real. Today feels better. I've just written up our Separation Agreement, to be delivered at the appropriate time.
  8. Can we go back to posting pictures of Taylor Swift and Dua Lipa in Pantyhose yet?
  9. How am I doing today? Pretty crap. I wish I could just escape the current situation and fast forward months or years.
  10. Parker v Zhang was an absolute bore fest. AJ v Ngannou showed the levels. Joshua never gets to drop his hands and wind up a knockout like that against a real boxer
  11. It sure is! Considering I am likely to be moving out in the not too distant future I am actually looking for a house with a garage purely for my boxing and gym equipment. I would be gutted to not have that outlet.
  12. A white PM wouldn't have been able to say that without destroying their career. Amazingly Rishi has had to save it to save his career.
  13. I swear half of the people going are just there to cause trouble, or just to be able to protest. Most of them can't find Palestine on a map.
  14. Considering I'm a leading authority in my field, it either says that the people in my field are idiots and I'm just the best of a bad bunch, or that's incorrect. The surgeon who did my hip replacements also has tattoos, and he struck me as an intelligent man.
  15. Yeah, that was the "I like all the benefits I get of living with you, and I want to keep them all, but I don't want to actually give you any affection in return" message. Hence me ending it instantly.
  16. I ended the relationship last night. Things haven't been progressing. She realises she needs me, but she doesn't love me. The final straw was when she suggested an open marriage. I asked her if she was serious, she said it wasn't ideal but it was an option. I ended it there and then. No way am I going to be in a marriage where my wife is fucking other guys. What a heartless and horrible way for her to bring about the end of our marriage.
  17. A few nights back, because I am a good person, I spent the evening and night looking after my wife as she simultaneously shit herself and threw up from food poisoning, helped her sweaty fevered body back to the bedroom and got her water whilst she recovered. I stayed in the bed with her to help her as and when she needed it. Her words 12 hours after the sickness kicked off: "I've been asking myself over the last 24 hours, but particularly since last night, what the hell am I doing?" I've also been told it's fine to share a bed again. It changes nothing as to how I see things. I am still actively working towards my future goals as a single or married man. At least she seems to be realising how much she has taken me for granted and she is appreciating me somewhat more.
  18. I'm not a fan of William or Harry.
  19. I directly asked her that question, as well as if she finds somebody else attractive, if she wants to be with somebody specific, and she has flat out denied it, insisted she never cheated on me etc. Considering how honest (brutally and nastily at times) she has been to me, I see no benefit to her playing her current game if she had met somebody else.
  20. No, but we have always paid for everything 50/50 until the last few years so it should be a simple and amicable split. When I was earning £22k and she was earning £30k, we put the same in every month. Now I'm earning £42k and she's earning £33k it's expected that I pay more. I've accepted that because she went down to part time, and I had no issues supporting the family, but that's come to an end. Unsurprisingly she's only just becoming aware of how financially fucked she is without me Tough shit sweetie. Maybe you should have thought about that before blaming me for your unhappiness instead of admitting being a mum hasn't been what you hoped, and your job isn't providing you the fulfillment you need.
  21. I've accepted this. She doesn't want it enough. I've just been an absolute saint of a husband and she didn't even put a hand on my shoulder and say thanks on her went out tonight. Just "good luck at your meeting tomorrow, I hope it goes well"
  22. Well, apparently when she said it was over last week, she didn't actually say it was over, and she is still looking to see what we could salvage or at least improve in our relationship. Bit too late really. That was an absolute kick in the teeth last week, and I was so low, so angry, so frustrated, so many "emotions" inside. She keeps saying that we are separated, whereas I say that it's still a relationship if you're trying to fix it, and it's separated when you have stopped. If she actually wanted to fix things then she wouldn't classify us in such a final and definitive way. We've taken to sleeping in separate houses now, rotating in and out between our house and our parents' houses. It's pretty crap, and she had Friday night, and basically the whole of Saturday to herself. We then slept in separate beds overnight before having a family day. I was fun, I was engaging, I was a great Dad, and she was... miserable. Why was she miserable? Because our daughter is difficult and she's behind on her work, and she thinks that the house needs more cleaning. But hey, she said that it's me that makes her negative and unhappy, and definitely not those things.
  23. Restarting my boxing training on Tuesday. My ankle is fucked so I can't skip and my footwork is terrible, but I can at least work the pads and the bag. Anybody here actually practiced the sweet science in the ring?
  24. I've just sent an enquiry about getting a tattoo, roughly quarter sleeve size. I've long had a love for Japanese art, and have wanted a tattoo for around 2 years now. In a week's time it'll be 15 years since I was diagnosed with leukaemia, and the tattoo will be in part related to that - it'll have a cherry blossom theme to signify impermanence and the fact that beauty in life will always return. I also want to include a tiger as a reference to my daughter, and water as blue is my favourite colour. Intrigued as to what the artist comes up with should they take the commission.
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