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  1. 1 hour ago, downzy said:

    I agree with all of this. 

    Funny enough though, you don't mention her music.  Which I think is average, at best.  I think her songs are popular largely because of her lyrics (which makes sense since she comes from the Nashville scene).

    But in every other aspect, she does it all very well and deserves the accolades and success.

    I would say that her music is top tier for this era/generation, but mid tier when you consider the great female singer songwriters of the past and their achievements at the time.

    I think we are in a very weak era that is far more controlled by dark forces and media manipulation than the eras where a buzz was generated by live performances and reputation spreading in the local scene and going nationwide.

  2. A great album is a great album, regardless of the number of writers, performers or producers. Take a band where one guy writes the lyrics, and another sings the songs. Look at Californication - that's Rubin's fingerprints all over the song, as the demo takes are so different. Is it a lesser album because Rubin shaped Keidis' outputs into something successful? He's not in the band after all.

     

     

    As for Beyonce. Don't get her. At all. I don't like her warbling vocals and I don't like the repetitive lyrics. I don't consider her to be a great - I think she just popped off with Crazy in Love, and then rode that wave for a few years with some commercial success, and now everything is hyped. I don't think there is any substance behind her output.

     

    Swift? She's extremely talented. She has the voice, she has the lyrics, the playing ability, she has the attitude, and she does what she wants when she wants it. She is a trendsetter and a global superstar. You can love her or hate her, but I don't think anybody who actually looks into her discography with an open mind would be able to say she's not an absolute superstar.

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  3. I took the decision to downsize my life around 10 months ago. Since then I have sold:

    Games Consoles - Gameboy Colour and PS5 + steering wheel etc

    Weightlifting Equipment - Farmers Carry handles, Chin up bar, kettle bells.

    Sports equipment - Boxing gloves, two road bikes, a turbo trainer for indoor cycling.

    Random stuff - Airpods, Camera kit, Video Camera, tripods, lighting etc.

     

    Getting rid of all of this stuff massively increased my free time. I purchased an indoor rowing machine and a guitar to go with my bass.

     

    I've been doing an inventory of my things to see what I could sell if I needed money desperately and I found that all I own of any value are those things - one guitar, one bass, on rowing machine, which I'd probably get £650-800 in total.

    I have a well specced home gym, but none of the stuff has any significant value. I can't believe how my aim of minimalism and cutting down to core items has been so effective that I actually don't have any pawnable items for a safety net if shit hit the fan.

    I've always owned £2000 of stuff that I could sell quickly. This is an unexpected side effect of minimalism.

  4. 38 minutes ago, Axls_Moustache_Rules said:

    Hey pal

     

    Fuck her off

     

    Alright? 

    Honestly if I could see a way forwards that wasn't going to damage my own life and my daughter's life, I would.

    It's my daughter that complicates things. I can accept unrequited love, even if she no longer loves me because of things that have been blown out of proportion and are ridiculous, and can easily be worked on.

    What I can't take is not trying to work on those issues and making my child another statistic of growing up with divorced parents, having to introduce a new step-dad who could abuse her or encourage behaviour that don't fit with my morals and the way I would like my daughter to be raised etc.

    My wife just says "I'll always put daughter first", but she wasn't putting her first when she spent 2 years growing resentment towards me instead of talking to me when they were minor annoyances.

     

    If my daughter wasn't around then I would say fuck it, you enjoy your substandard life - I'll enjoy my higher wages, stable family and freedom, you go chasing those butterflies, and don't complain in 5 years when I'm doing great and you're a used up 45 year old.

    But I do have a daughter, and I do still love my wife, despite my upset about what she's done and is doing.

  5. 11 hours ago, Axls_Moustache_Rules said:

    I spent all of Friday morning listening and laughing to Scousers calling into radio shows and literally crying live on air.

    I'm so fed up with it already.

     

    Under Klopp they've had Gerrard, Trent A-A, Robertson, Salah, Allison, VVD, and every Liverpool fan will tell you each of those is world class and the best player the Prem has ever had in each of those positions.

     

    So, with a spine and wing backs like that, they conquered for the past 7 years right?

     

    1 prem? Same as Conte.

    1 CL? Same as Di Matteo.

    1 FA Cup on pens? Meh.

    1 League Cup because of corrupt VAR lines? Fraud.

     

    So underwhelming.

  6. I needed some running leggings to go under shorts many years back when doing a run that was far colder than I had packed for, and it was proper last minute. The only ones I could find in a local shop long enough were women's surprisingly. 

    I actually love how they feel, how I can move in them, and TBH how my ass looks in them.

    They've become my go-to clothing for my lazy days at home alone.

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  7. I don't know if it was positive or negative. My wife is only ever emotional when she talks about the impact on our daughter. She doesn't ever get upset about our relationship ending.

    She's so disconnected, but then she will say something about how we're still working on our relationship. Then she'll say that she needs more space, and then maybe she will want to come back to me. 

    I have zero control over this and it's so painful. I have given so much to help her and support her whilst her mum was letting dogs shit all over the house, refusing to answer the door and generally being a pissed alcoholic. I've grown massively in confidence over the decade we've been together, doubled my wages and generally become a much better and more rounded person.

    She's abandoned me whilst I've had my own challenges though.

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  8. 18 hours ago, ZoSoRose said:

    Fuck dude, I'm sorry. That is beyond a drag. Can you guys try counseling?? 

    We have our first session today.

    She dropped the "we should divorce" bomb on me two weeks ago today, and she told me "I have tried everything to get past this"

    Except:

    Seeing a Doc for depression

    Speaking to your husband about it

    Being open about the things that bother her

    Speaking to a counsellor or therapist on her own

    Speaking to a counsellor or therapist as a couple

     

    As soon as I called her on her BS of "trying everything" she said she would try. I just need to be sure she is trying because she wants to be with me, not just because life is more secure with me.

  9. On 3/21/2023 at 11:33 AM, Chris1989 said:

    I'm married with a 2.5 year old. Ticked the boxes now. 

    House. Wife. Child. 

    And now my wife wants a divorce because she doesn't love me any more, but I'm an amazing husband and have only ever treated her in the best way, and I have always been wonderful.

    Not sure that makes me feel any better. She wants to just throw a decade away of our relationship, and the stability of our lives and our daughters life just because she is depressed and lost in life. 

  10. I'm doing an apprenticeship alongside my normal job, and it's really dragging me down. I don't have time to do it - I signed up way back when work was fairly quiet, but we've got a whole bunch of new contracts in the last 6 months. Add in that I am supposed to be getting a promotion in the next month and I can only see this working if I do the apprenticeship in my free time.

  11. The adverts normally start now for what are essentially savings accounts that tie you in to purchasing from a specific catalogue. You pay in each month to fund Christmas, earn 0% interest on that saving, and then get restricted to purchasing from a select set of stores and often pay more than the best deals on the high street or online. It's a massive scam that preys on people who are unable to leave their damn savings alone.

    The UK and America are HORRIFIC at teaching people how to manage finances. The fact Dave Ramsey has made so much money from what is the most simple and basic financial advice going simply astounds me. 

  12. On 11/28/2023 at 12:04 AM, grouse said:

     Powerful words my man, my parents are getting to a certain age and i swear if I have to hear that same old story once again I will explode, your post made me realise that I need to take a chill pill because pretty soon I will be that exact same person. Hell Im already boring my kid with my stories haha, I keep on retelling her when her mom and I first met. Dont know why but those were some powerful words mate, cheers thanks for that!

    It's their, and now your, glory days. We're all like that. I try to ensure that I am always doing something new and taking on different challenges so that I am never in a rut for so long that I have nothing new to talk about.

    I've worked in Insurance, Finance, Automotive, Energy, and now Decarbonisation. I used to play football, then rugby, then tennis, then swimming, then cycling, then triathlons, now I have taken up running. Only constant in my life is my family.

    Keep things fresh, make new memories, create new stories.

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  13. My family isn't fucked, but I can't say I am that excited for family time with the in-laws + extended family (either side as wife has divorced parents, one of which is remarried)

    It's such a drag going to the group meet up. There's no optional games to play, there's no drinking, no music. You just get together, talk about surface level shit that nobody really cares about (How's your job Chris? You wouldn't understand so i'll just say good) and watch people open presents - mainly children opening plastic shit.

    My side of the family have the option of playing games together, there's wine flowing, maybe some christmas tv is on, or there will be music playing... people are just happier and it's natural. 

  14. 53 minutes ago, Cosmo said:

    Holy shit one of the worst takes I've ever seen on these forums

     

    Ok, so if I go through your online history, your whatsapp, your instagram etc, and the way the world works has changed and made your actions totally disgusting, immoral etc, I can burn you at the stake?

    Excellent. I REALLY hope the critics of this post remember this one in 20 years. One day you might have seen enough of the world to know it's actually right.

    PS, I've never said rape is alright. I called out that actions weren't right. 

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  15. This is actually highlighting one of the things I hate about the world these days.

    People applying 2023 rules and expectations to 1989. 

    Simple fact is, people will or won't act a certain way based on what society deems acceptable. Treating women like this was far more acceptable in society back then. I'm NOT saying that was right, but stating that in that environment it wouldn't have been a totally unusual situation.

    Now apply 2023 rules of society to it and that is NOT acceptable to people, and the likelihood of somebody acting that way is minimal at best. 

    The way Axl did or didn't behave back then is a product of societies rules in 1989, and he shouldn't be tried by 2023's rules.

     

    Hell, we all agree that paedo's and animal fuckers are disgusting people that should be euthanised right? What if in 34 years society suddenly changes and declares those things to be OK? We'll all be in the dock for criticising them.
     

    Look at the way that gay people were treated before the 70's in the UK - it was acceptable to jail them FFS! Society changes, and you should be judged by the rules of society and law at the time, not by the court of public opinion of people who weren't even born, or were barely out of nappies.

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  16. 2 hours ago, Rindmelon said:

    Does anyone know if @jman or @jman2000 or @jman41 or @jman80 is still around at all? I am assuming those other names are alts lol. I @ signed him on the off chance he may get some sort of notification. If your out there and you see this it's Shackler In The rye/ Shacklermyrye here, need to talk to you about something.

     

    Shits going down bruh. They've found the bodies. Need to talk. 

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