Jackie Moon Posted August 1, 2014 Share Posted August 1, 2014 I knew this would become a thing!In the past i've said this to two females:"wanna marry me for awhile?"legitimately serious. I loved those girls and would have married them. For awhile.Luckily some girl in Ottawa agrees with me ;http://metronews.ca/news/ottawa/1114425/scared-to-put-a-ring-on-it-would-short-term-marriage-contract-change-your-mind/ If the thought of uttering “’til death do us part” gives you a case of commitment phobia, maybe a short-term marriage would suit you best. Véronique Laliberté, a masters student in law at the University of Ottawa, wants to tweak marriage laws to include a fixed term, with an option to renew. It’s kind of like signing a deal with a cell phone provider. “That’s really romantic, right?” Laliberté said with a laugh.But, you could argue, undying love is dying out. According to Statistics Canada, there were about 70,000 divorces every year between 2001 and 2008.The point of a fixed-term marriage is to avoid the hassle of divorcing through court, explained Laliberté. Say a couple wants to marry, but decides on a pre-nuptial agreement in case the relationship crumbles. Once the arranged fixed term is up, they could end the relationship, renew it for a second term or do nothing, at which point the pre-nup conditions would be void.It’s like a plan to untangle the knot before it’s tied.“I would like to make it – not easier, but simpler. Less complicated,” Laliberté said.She was awarded the 2013-2014 Haykal-Sater prize for the best French-language thesis at her school. And she and her partner tried a three-month relationship contract that has so far ended well. They have been together for a little over a year.She’s not the first to conceive of a short-term marriage.In 2011, Mexico City politicians introduced two-year temporary marriage licenses that were mandatory before the real deal. It was up for debate in Germany in 2007, but for a seven-year term. It has yet to be enacted in law.Judy Kiar, an individual, couple and family therapist in Ottawa, said this type of relationship might work for some couples, but said it undermines the hard work a lifelong marriage requires.“Oftentimes, people think that things should come easy and so if it’s hard maybe it’s not meant to be,” she said. “But the reality is, there’s something to be said for working at something and seeing it evolve into something better, rather than just having a change-partners mentality.”Laliberté is considering pursuing her PhD on the topic and bring it into law. She hopes to be the first in Canada to legally say “I do” to a short-term marriage.what says you, mygnrforum? would you be interested in a 5 year marriage contract? Specifically Orsys. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orsys Posted August 1, 2014 Share Posted August 1, 2014 In theory I like it. What about our kids and real estate Jackie? Do I just take all that with me five years from now? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie Moon Posted August 2, 2014 Author Share Posted August 2, 2014 lets focus on the creating kids part then worry about everything else later Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarkFairy81 Posted August 2, 2014 Share Posted August 2, 2014 Seems pointless. Why get married at all then? It's not mandatory. We had a rough time around the 5th year but I would so regret ending it now. We're at almost 11 years married. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie Moon Posted August 2, 2014 Author Share Posted August 2, 2014 i think that is what some people are saying - why not just 'keep it common-law'i think to this day the marriage label means something to people though. I can think of a few people i'd like to call my wife. for awhile.orsys what up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gracii Guns Posted August 2, 2014 Share Posted August 2, 2014 Absolutely wouldn't do it. What if the couple had kids? I'm not sure how confident the children would be if they knew that mum and dad may only be married for the next few years, so if they do split up, they don't have to endure an expensive and stressful divorce. It's not an example of true love, and although they acknowledge the relationship might not last a lifetime, any children they have will. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alfierose Posted August 2, 2014 Share Posted August 2, 2014 I think more people would split up. Out of the couples I know, with children and without, the cohabiting ones seem to separate with more frequency. I'm on the fence as to whether this is a good thing or not. Sometimes marriages drag on well past the point of what is good for everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orsys Posted August 2, 2014 Share Posted August 2, 2014 Actually Mexico did something interesting by implementing a two year temp marriage contract before the permament one could happen. A trial run before committing the rest of your natural life. Again the kid thing complicates it but that is interesting.Jackie, "a few"? a FEW? How far down am I on that list? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
magisme Posted August 2, 2014 Share Posted August 2, 2014 It's not the worst idea ever, but it's pretty close to the worst idea ever. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie Moon Posted August 2, 2014 Author Share Posted August 2, 2014 (edited) I do admit my appreciation of this idea probably has less to do with its validity as a concept and more to do with me being an insane person. Edited August 2, 2014 by Jackie Moon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darknightfan Posted August 3, 2014 Share Posted August 3, 2014 I have a 5 year plan for mygnrforum. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie Moon Posted August 3, 2014 Author Share Posted August 3, 2014 (edited) I have a 5 year plan for mygnrforum.does it end in 'myJackieforum' ???because that\s my plan, gtfo! Edited August 3, 2014 by Jackie Moon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darknightfan Posted August 4, 2014 Share Posted August 4, 2014 I have a 5 year plan for mygnrforum.does it end in 'myJackieforum' ???because that\s my plan, gtfo!Can't leave yet. I have less than 4 years left. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie Moon Posted August 4, 2014 Author Share Posted August 4, 2014 I have a 5 year plan for mygnrforum.does it end in 'myJackieforum' ???because that\s my plan, gtfo!Can't leave yet. I have less than 4 years left.wanna hang out ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darknightfan Posted August 4, 2014 Share Posted August 4, 2014 I have a 5 year plan for mygnrforum.does it end in 'myJackieforum' ???because that\s my plan, gtfo!Can't leave yet. I have less than 4 years left.wanna hang out ?Sure. I've got time to kill. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wasted Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 What about 5 hours? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apollo Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 That isn't something new - about ten years ago I was talking to an old hippy park ranger and he was full force behind the 5-year marriage plan idea.Why not just live together and date if you aren't planning on being married forever? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darknightfan Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 That isn't something new - about ten years ago I was talking to an old hippy park ranger and he was full force behind the 5-year marriage plan idea.Why not just live together and date if you aren't planning on being married forever?Exactly. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgy Zhukov Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 That isn't something new - about ten years ago I was talking to an old hippy park ranger and he was full force behind the 5-year marriage plan idea.Why not just live together and date if you aren't planning on being married forever?Exactly.Tax write off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orsys Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 What about 5 hours?That's called a date. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wasted Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 What about 5 hours?That's called a date.That's a long date. They don't have that much material. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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