gnrhobo

mate, run.

My thoughts exactly.

2 months ago I started talking to a new coworker, we hit it off quick. Turns out she had a crush on me and as a result we banged on the second date.

Well a few dates later, I learned I had feelings for her too. Despite my best efforts, my attraction and lust came at her with full force. She became the only thing on my mind.

We agreed to keep it a secret, but it didn't take long for her to open her mouth and as a result, everyone at work knows our little secret.

To make matters worse it is quite obvious my boss has it for her and it is obvious she flirts with him as well.

This is a huge red flag to me.

I have considered dumping her multiple times. Once on her 'week', I asked if she 'wanted it to be over.' She burst into tears.

I guess the bottom of it all is that I don't trust her. She has tremendous self-confidence issues and jealousy problems. Ironically, I do as well but try my best to refrain from exposing them.

I am considering just asking whether she has feelings for this other guy.

If those two get together my fucking pride will go down the shitter. That'll be the end of my job and my girlfriend will only be an ex.

I am such a sensitive little fucker. I hate it.

Graeme, are you actively TRYING to meet anyone?

If you're not putting yourself in situations where you meet girls, then, no, it won't "just happen."

Graeme -

Just put a smile on your face and look for women that act differently around you than they do around other guys. I am a firm believer that the girl chooses the guy.

Be you, with confidence. If you try be somebody you're not, she will eventually figure it out and it won't end in your favor. Don't be fake.

Truth is, everyone has insecurities. Why do you think this thread has so many participants? It is because everyone is just as confused as we are. And the scary truth is that the insecurities never leave in a relationship. They will always be there.

I think love and attraction are illogical. Sometimes it just happens.

If you can be honest with a girl and be her lover as well as her friend, then that is something worth pursuing, but don't get me wrong, that kind of relationship takes time and they are far and few between.

Maybe try focus on yourself a little bit and try find a good group of support around you. Hit the gym? Join a group of people that meet every week? I am not saying to join a religious following, but maybe a group of guys that are there for you to pick you up?

Good company builds good character and I think good character can be an attractive asset you can bring into this world.

Stay in there. Life is tough. Nobody is safe or immune to heartache, and sometimes the ones that don't show it are hurting most of all.

If a girl is giving you the eye, get to know her, don't be afraid to tell her you're awkward if you are, sometimes hinting at Achilles heels' brings down barriers.

Good luck.

i voted the pumpkins.

probably all the ones that have been listed so far. i do like back off bitch though.