Redhead74

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Most of the stuff I post is in Dutch, but feel free to add me if you like.

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En jou?

Facecrack is just a bit of fun. What's the harm, it fills time while you're waiting at the lights.

Of course we're fucking deep, we're over 40!

When it comes to Dutch this goes for me as well. Written Dutch and written Norwegian is more similar than spoken Dutch and spoken Norwegian (because Dutch sounds like a cat being choked which masks the underlying similarities).

Norwegian is pretty easy, especially if you are German or Dutch, and more so if you are Swedish and Danish (because of close linguistic relationships). But in general we have a simple, forgiving grammar so no reasons to not start learning Norwegians!

And if you plan to visit Norway, here's some practical information from Black Debbath:

And some more specific to our traditional foods:

For 29 years the only reason I've ever had to visit Norway is:

Morten Harket

Magne Furuholmen

Pal Waaktaar

And I didn't even have to look up the spelling

Saw them live in Amsterdam on November 18 2003 which was a dream come true. :wub:

So, if anyone read my links you'd see that Indo-Aryan languages are rated like this (based on how complex and irregular they are):

Classic Greek: 5.5

Czech: 5.5

Slovak: 5.5

Polish: 5.0

Sanskrit: 5.0

Icelandic: 5.0

Faroese: 5.0

Lithuanian: 5.0

Old Irish: 5.0

Greek: 5.0

Albanian: 5.0

Latvian: 4.5

Nepali: 4.5

Punjabi: 4.5

Irish: 4.5

Scottish Gaelic: 4.5

Serbo-Croatian: 4.5

Manx: 4.5

Slovenian: 4.0

Russian: 4.0

Armenian: 4.0

Welsh: 4.0

Breton: 4.0

Sinhala: 4.0

Kurdish: 4.0

Ossetian: 4.0

Hindi: 4.0

Bulgarian: 3.5

Macedonian: 3.5

German: 3.5

Bengali: 3.5

Dutch: 3.0

Italian: 3.0

Danish: 3.0

Persian: 3.0

Portuguese: 3.0

Romanian: 3.0

French: 3.0

Swedish: 2.5

English: 2.5

Spanish: 2.5

Neapolitan: 2.5

Afrikaans: 2.0

Norwegian: 2.0

But all of these none-Indo-Aryan languages might be much harder: Navajo, Tsez, Kung (language family), Pirahã, Basque, Comanche, Archi, Etruscan, Northwest/Northeast Caucasian (language family) and Aboriginal Australian (language family).

So no, English simply isn't among the hardest languages to learn.

Czech was the hardest language I ever tried to learn. Glad that that has been proved

Surprised to see that Norwegian and Afrikaans are equally 'simple', because Afrikaans is basically simplified Dutch.

Norwegian and Danish are pretty close to Dutch as well. I know a few Danish people who learned to speak Dutch in no-time.

Kudos to your friends I hardly ever meet (foreign) people that speak Dutch

My Dutch is pretty crap but I generally find grasping something of a language easier when reading it rather than listening to it and so I often find I can decipher a lot of German and Danish from my mediocre understanding of Dutch.

For some reason words and language for me are learnt much easier by reading than listening. I remember being in Holland when I was 8 and I'd read all the packaging of the stuff in the trolley when we went shopping, read all the newspapers, magazines lying around, read all the street signs and make associations from that. When I say 'read' I mean analyse the spelling and commit it to memory. I've done the same with French and Italian and have figured out enough to get by when I'm in those countries.

American English where they use a faucet instead of a tap

Yeah I always belly up to the bar and order Budweiser on faucet.

BTW - English is one of the hardest to learn, what other language has words that are spelled the same but have two entirely different meanings depending on context.

French for one is harder the than English. Every noun has a masculine of feminine and there is not set rule to understanding why a word is one or the other. You just have to learn it from exposure.

I don't think my personality has changed as I've gotten older but as a person in general I have a lot in the last 10 years. My attitude to many things has changed, mainly in regards to work, politics, relationships and wealth. My moral standing hasn't changed but I do sense a greater clarity in my beliefs from a moral perspective.

Is it acceptable to go to a wedding without a date? I have a friend that's getting married in September, and I don't want to be the awkward dude that shows up alone and doesn't know anyone.

Is it acceptable? Are you fucking kidding me? Weddings are awesome when you're a single guy if you can pull the stick out of your arse long enough to take advantage of the situation. Where else can you find loads of drunk single women getting all emotional and worrying about being left on the shelf? Bridesmaids are practically designed for no strings attached debauchery! Last wedding I attended I was getting stuck into the groom's cousin within half an hour of finishing my best man's speech!

Wasn't the last wedding you attended your own?

Or did you do that while the missed looked on?

I wish Lith could delete this thread.

Wow, even easier, just don't look at it.

Not like anyone is forcing you to.

Wow, I am sorry my post isn't of your taste. But, just don't look at it. Not like anyone is forcing you.

Who says it wasn't to my taste?

If mod court doesn't exist, then how come I was given a re-trial and pardoned for my hate crimes against Gilby Clarke?

Because no one else could possibly give a fuck?

Who cares about Gilby Clarke?

Which is why I'm suggesting he take it to mod court and not real court.

I'm pretty sure the concept of 'intellectual property' doesn't exist in 'forum world', let alone 'mod court'.

I wish Lith could delete this thread.

Do you have some kind of intellectual disability that prevents you from just not clicking on a thread that doesn't interest you, or one of your mates doesn't control?

I wish Lith could delete this thread.

Wow, even easier, just don't look at it.

Not like anyone is forcing you to.

Shouldn't this thread still technically be the intellectual property of Lithium? I mean, it's basically an unwarranted continuation of something he chose to shut down.Take this shit to mod court.

Lol at the suggestion of anything here being 'intellectual property'.

This is a GNR forum, not a copyright registry.

I don't understand Bitcoin.

Not at all. Wasn't that the entire point of the thread, though? To keep my "life" in one place? I'm not going to mess up these threads with my, well, whatever you want to call it, but I do feel the need to vent from time to time, so I suppose I'll just keep it to myself then.

As I told someone in a PM the other day, The hardest part for me is as much as I sincerely appreciate all of the advice, ya'all have got to realize that it's taking some time because I literally am building myself back up from complete scratch here. I was in a long term disaster of a relationship for 9 years when I should have been learning how to get out and date people. I'm learning this much later in life than most people. I suck at it, I'll be the first to admit it.

Once I get out of my head enough to get my confidence/self-esteem/whatever else built back up, then I can go ahead and start really applying the advice to real-life. That's always been the hard part for me and the part that I need to sort out first.

What a fucking load of crap. I've been a member of this forum for 2 years now and you've used the '9 year disaster' relationship as an excuse all this time. It doesn't take 2 years to bounce back from a relationship that wasn't marriage and had no children. You're making excuses. You said above that you're learning this "much later in life than most people." Give me a fucking break! Aren't you like 28 or 29? I know people who have been in 30+ years relationships (relationships longer than you've been alive) and find themselves alone/single for the first time in their adult lives and after the security of children. They get out there at the age of 55+ and start dating again. It doesn't take them 2 years, unless they've been grieving over the death of their loyal husband/wife and father/mother to their children.

You need to wake up and realise you haven't got it that hard.

The lyrics are hers, and some of the melodies so its not entirely fair to say that she's manufactured. In all honesty she contributes more to her own music than say, Steven Adler ever did on a GNR song. He was a great drummer but wrote jackshit, and I don't see how he deserves any more respect than Lana, yet she cops crap all the time. Some people buy help, some just happen to meet the right people and ride on their coat tails.

redheaded woman, the intro of nightrain demo is better than everything lana del rey created.

When did I say that Lana was better than GNR?

GNR have been one of the greatest joys in my life way back since I was 14 in 1988. GNR eclipse most of what ANYONE on this planet has done because of what they mean to me personally. There's only a couple of other artists that I would put on that level. But that doesn't mean that Lana is as useless as everyone makes out.

I'm sorry, but I'm pretty positive that there were several (probably plenty of) great drummers in LA back in the mid 80s that could have filled Stevens shoes. He didn't 'write songs'. He played drums and he played them well. Big fucking deal, there are many in this world that can do that. When it comes down to GNR success it comes down to Axl and Izzy (as songwriters). Slash for composition of his solos as well, since theyre a huge part of a GNR song, but Steven? Please! Give me a fucking break.

I'd say if you can organise some sort of childcare on the day, at the reception, go for it, otherwise yeah no kids.

Considering the average wedding here in Australia costs $42,000 I don't think looking after someone's children needs to be at your expense. Anyone invited to a wedding where meal, drinks and entertainment are provided for should be able to find appropriate childcare themselves. Especially since wedding invites (as I said to Gracii) are sent out well in advance. If a babysitter is unaffordable then surely someone can be found with 2-3 months notice to look after them for half a day.

And how about "I'd prefer that you didn't bring a present and spent the money on a babysitter, since I'd really appreciate your attendance".

Thanks for all your advice. I discussed this with fiancé last night. He's way more caring than I am and would be mortified if someone couldn't attend as they couldn't find childcare. So we've decided to not invite children, but if the parents say "we can't come because kids weren't invited" we'll allow them to bring the kids.

This opens up another can of worms entirely, as other guests sans children may feel "why were their kids invited and not mine?".

I remember going to a few weddings as a child, and I found it the most boring thing ever. Even as a churchgoer, the wedding services were always dull, and then at the reception there was absolutely no thought for kids (eg. A table of colas next to the table of champagne would have been nice) or as a very developed 12 year old, being served a kids meal.

Be careful there Grace. Some people may be happy (but inconvenienced) to spend money on a babysitter knowing its a wedding. If they see other kids there they could feel slighted or disrespected seeing those kids present. I think it's only fair and reasonable to apply a blanket rule to everyone, especially if people might need to pay for a babysitter for the evening. It's a tough situation but you need to be firm and clear on why you can't have children there. Honestly, it's your WEDDING DAY! Not a birthday party, not a Christmas party. If people are invited to your wedding they should be honoured enough to get a babysitter (and enjoy the evening without children) or perhaps even get the grandparents or a friend to look after them.

Honestly, I remember my sister in law the first time she went out for the evening without her 1 yo daughter, who was being looked after by her parents and she fretted because she 'missed her'. All I could think was: "you used to be a well balanced, intelligent woman. Now you're a fucking weirdo". I really think that some people prefer to take their children to any and every event these days because it suits THEM. Well, if they are paying the bill they can do what they want, but since they're not I don't think they get to have an opinion. It's REALLY not that hard to find someone to look after the kids for one evening, considering wedding invitations usually go out a couple or more months before the event.

First, I'm not a parent, but working in bridal I encounter this issue a lot with my customers throughout conversation, so heres my 2 cents:

It's common here not to invite children to weddings. Most functions/events where there is some kind of ceremony involved are generally considered inappropriate for children who have short attention spans. Most people aren't surprised and don't get their knickers in a twist at the fact that they're kids aren't invited. The only ones who do are those obnoxious parents who think their children are 'special' and that the world evolves around them and they can't possibly conceive that their children weren't invited first, before everyone else because of their 'specialness'.

A far more common problem here is that weddings have become so expensive that a lot of people planning a wedding have to keep the guest list down to a certain number and as a result relatives or acquaintances that aren't that important to the bride and groom don't get invited. It's STAGGERING how much offence is taken and the vile comments and arguments that arise as a result, from people who fail to remember that it's not THEIR day and THEY are not paying for the whole thing.

Honestly weddings bring the best and the WORST out of people. Have a wedding and you learn the true colours of the people in your life. If I was you Grace, I'd be honest and say that expense is a factor and if children are invited it comes at the expense of an adult that you really want to have present with you to enjoy the day.

Just bought these at 70% off! Had been eyeing them off when they first came out and couldn't believe my luck today.

She has a distinctive moody and depressive style.

I like to call it melancholic.

For some reason I'm often attracted to music that has a distinct element of melancholia.

She mentions Sweet Child o'Mine in her song Bel Air, on the Paradise Edition of Born to Die.

I also think that that the first verse of Dark Paradise is about Axl:

All my friends tell me I should move on

I'm lying in the ocean, singing your song

Ahhh, that's how you sang it

Loving you forever, can't be wrong

Even though you're not here, won't move on

Ahhh, that's how we played it

The bit where she sings 'Ahhh, that's how you sang it', sounds like a mimicking of Axl in SCOM towards the end.

The lyrics are hers, and some of the melodies so its not entirely fair to say that she's manufactured. In all honesty she contributes more to her own music than say, Steven Adler ever did on a GNR song. He was a great drummer but wrote jackshit, and I don't see how he deserves any more respect than Lana, yet she cops crap all the time. Some people buy help, some just happen to meet the right people and ride on their coat tails.

I don't have kids, I can't have them and I never want any for multiple reasons. I know I probably have a bunch of mental and physical health issues that I wouldn't want to pass on even if I could, and I know that I'd probably end up mentally and emotionally abusing any kids I might have. I'm also willing to admit that I'm a selfish person, and those types of people just don't work as parents, or spouses or anything that needs to involve emotional support as much as that. I can be supportive of my true friends and some family members, but that's it. Also, I hate knowing that some day I'm going to see almost everybody around me die. Knowing that is fucking torture to me, and I wouldn't want to be responsible for someone else feeling it.

And I know this is a very grim thing to say, but the fact is, some people will see their children die before them. My dad has four kids from his first marriage, and two of them are dead; one died of a respiratory illness when she was around two, and the other died when a drunk driver crashed into him head on (and insult to injury: The drunk driver was fine). Now, I've always considered myself to be an only child, because one died before I was even a thought and I've never met and will most likely never meet the others. Yet, knowing that two of them are dead is crushing to me, because I know my dad had to live through every parents' nightmare TWICE. That's a hell I don't even want to imagine, and one I don't want to potentially risk.

On a lighter note, another reason I don't want any is because they freak me out. Don't know what it is, but most kids and dolls just make me feel very frightened and uneasy. I think it's called pedophobia or something? I dunno if it's that severe, but whatever. Not really a light note for me, but I figured it would be for you guys. "Hey look, Nulla's a-scared of small people! Let's virtually kick his ass!"

My partners grandmother gave birth to four children and only one of them survived past the age of 19. She was the gentlest, most kindest woman I think I'd ever met and behind her kindness was a woman who was tough as nails and never showed anger, nastiness, aggression or hostility in all the time I knew her. I can't even imagine the pain she and her husband suffered having to bury 3 children.

Of course the fear of losing them is not a reason to not have children but you have to be prepared for whatever may come as a result. It's not always joy, happiness and fulfilment. The more you love someone the greater the pain when things go wrong.

SlashLP.

It's one of the only designs where you can actually read the text clearly.

I actually disagree with that. It's such a generalisation to say that kids today are a lot smarter than they were before the Internet.

Of course it's a generalization. A "kid" is a generalisation of a human being under a certain age. Unsurprisingly though you're still wrong. Just take a look at what you said:

"It's such a generalisation to say that kids today are a lot smarter than they were before they had access to a global library of knowledge in the palm of their hand ."

It's common fucking sense. Our tools make us smarter and the internet is one hell of a tool. The smart kid with easy access to the information they need is more likely to fulfil their potential than the kid who doesn't. Of course he also has access to vast amounts of pornography but therein lies the challenge.

Wen did I say that? I NEVER fucking said what you put in quotation marks above. You just made that up!

Fucking hell, at least quote me word for word if you're going to argue something I posted.

And fucking LOL at the predictable likes when you didn't even quote what I actually posted!

:lol: :lol:

For the sake of historic accuracy this is what I posted:

I actually disagree with that. It's such a generalisation to say that kids today are a lot smarter than they were before the Internet. Kids before the Internet read books and took as much interest in history, science, art, and making stuff as they do today.

Hmmm.....I suspect a hater just trying to argue with me for the sake of arguing........

Wow.

It appears that whatever credit I afforded you(basic comprehension skills) was entirely too much.

Back on topic:

"a global library of knowledge in the palm of their hand" doesn't make kids smarter. They have to want to do something with the information to begin with. There's just as many kids (and probably more) who solely use the Internet for Facebook, celebrity gossip and video games as those who use it to increase their knowledge and hence, their smartness. But those with a hunger for knowledge would have found it regardless, Internet or not.

Anyway, I'm sure you'll reply with another belittling comment and insult, and your little gang will jump on with lots of likes and lots of pats on the back. It's so predictable and there's really no point in engaging in argument for the sake of argument.