Chris1989

I directly asked her that question, as well as if she finds somebody else attractive, if she wants to be with somebody specific, and she has flat out denied it, insisted she never cheated on me etc. Considering how honest (brutally and nastily at times) she has been to me, I see no benefit to her playing her current game if she had met somebody else.

No, but we have always paid for everything 50/50 until the last few years so it should be a simple and amicable split. When I was earning £22k and she was earning £30k, we put the same in every month. Now I'm earning £42k and she's earning £33k it's expected that I pay more. I've accepted that because she went down to part time, and I had no issues supporting the family, but that's come to an end. Unsurprisingly she's only just becoming aware of how financially fucked she is without me Tough shit sweetie. Maybe you should have thought about that before blaming me for your unhappiness instead of admitting being a mum hasn't been what you hoped, and your job isn't providing you the fulfillment you need.

I've accepted this. She doesn't want it enough. I've just been an absolute saint of a husband and she didn't even put a hand on my shoulder and say thanks on her went out tonight. Just "good luck at your meeting tomorrow, I hope it goes well"

Well, apparently when she said it was over last week, she didn't actually say it was over, and she is still looking to see what we could salvage or at least improve in our relationship. Bit too late really. That was an absolute kick in the teeth last week, and I was so low, so angry, so frustrated, so many "emotions" inside. She keeps saying that we are separated, whereas I say that it's still a relationship if you're trying to fix it, and it's separated when you have stopped. If she actually wanted to fix things then she wouldn't classify us in such a final and definitive way. We've taken to sleeping in separate houses now, rotating in and out between our house and our parents' houses. It's pretty crap, and she had Friday night, and basically the whole of Saturday to herself. We then slept in separate beds overnight before having a family day. I was fun, I was engaging, I was a great Dad, and she was... miserable. Why was she miserable? Because our daughter is difficult and she's behind on her work, and she thinks that the house needs more cleaning. But hey, she said that it's me that makes her negative and unhappy, and definitely not those things.

Restarting my boxing training on Tuesday. My ankle is fucked so I can't skip and my footwork is terrible, but I can at least work the pads and the bag. Anybody here actually practiced the sweet science in the ring?

I've just sent an enquiry about getting a tattoo, roughly quarter sleeve size. I've long had a love for Japanese art, and have wanted a tattoo for around 2 years now. In a week's time it'll be 15 years since I was diagnosed with leukaemia, and the tattoo will be in part related to that - it'll have a cherry blossom theme to signify impermanence and the fact that beauty in life will always return. I also want to include a tiger as a reference to my daughter, and water as blue is my favourite colour. Intrigued as to what the artist comes up with should they take the commission.

I would say that her music is top tier for this era/generation, but mid tier when you consider the great female singer songwriters of the past and their achievements at the time. I think we are in a very weak era that is far more controlled by dark forces and media manipulation than the eras where a buzz was generated by live performances and reputation spreading in the local scene and going nationwide.

A great album is a great album, regardless of the number of writers, performers or producers. Take a band where one guy writes the lyrics, and another sings the songs. Look at Californication - that's Rubin's fingerprints all over the song, as the demo takes are so different. Is it a lesser album because Rubin shaped Keidis' outputs into something successful? He's not in the band after all. As for Beyonce. Don't get her. At all. I don't like her warbling vocals and I don't like the repetitive lyrics. I don't consider her to be a great - I think she just popped off with Crazy in Love, and then rode that wave for a few years with some commercial success, and now everything is hyped. I don't think there is any substance behind her output. Swift? She's extremely talented. She has the voice, she has the lyrics, the playing ability, she has the attitude, and she does what she wants when she wants it. She is a trendsetter and a global superstar. You can love her or hate her, but I don't think anybody who actually looks into her discography with an open mind would be able to say she's not an absolute superstar.

I've done exactly that today. It's over. It's on to the admin to put this shit situation behind us. I just wish I didn't have a daughter involved.

I took the decision to downsize my life around 10 months ago. Since then I have sold: Games Consoles - Gameboy Colour and PS5 + steering wheel etc Weightlifting Equipment - Farmers Carry handles, Chin up bar, kettle bells. Sports equipment - Boxing gloves, two road bikes, a turbo trainer for indoor cycling. Random stuff - Airpods, Camera kit, Video Camera, tripods, lighting etc. Getting rid of all of this stuff massively increased my free time. I purchased an indoor rowing machine and a guitar to go with my bass. I've been doing an inventory of my things to see what I could sell if I needed money desperately and I found that all I own of any value are those things - one guitar, one bass, on rowing machine, which I'd probably get £650-800 in total. I have a well specced home gym, but none of the stuff has any significant value. I can't believe how my aim of minimalism and cutting down to core items has been so effective that I actually don't have any pawnable items for a safety net if shit hit the fan. I've always owned £2000 of stuff that I could sell quickly. This is an unexpected side effect of minimalism.

Honestly if I could see a way forwards that wasn't going to damage my own life and my daughter's life, I would. It's my daughter that complicates things. I can accept unrequited love, even if she no longer loves me because of things that have been blown out of proportion and are ridiculous, and can easily be worked on. What I can't take is not trying to work on those issues and making my child another statistic of growing up with divorced parents, having to introduce a new step-dad who could abuse her or encourage behaviour that don't fit with my morals and the way I would like my daughter to be raised etc. My wife just says "I'll always put daughter first", but she wasn't putting her first when she spent 2 years growing resentment towards me instead of talking to me when they were minor annoyances. If my daughter wasn't around then I would say fuck it, you enjoy your substandard life - I'll enjoy my higher wages, stable family and freedom, you go chasing those butterflies, and don't complain in 5 years when I'm doing great and you're a used up 45 year old. But I do have a daughter, and I do still love my wife, despite my upset about what she's done and is doing.

I'm so fed up with it already. Under Klopp they've had Gerrard, Trent A-A, Robertson, Salah, Allison, VVD, and every Liverpool fan will tell you each of those is world class and the best player the Prem has ever had in each of those positions. So, with a spine and wing backs like that, they conquered for the past 7 years right? 1 prem? Same as Conte. 1 CL? Same as Di Matteo. 1 FA Cup on pens? Meh. 1 League Cup because of corrupt VAR lines? Fraud. So underwhelming.

Epitome of "scorer of great goals" rather than "great goalscorer"

I needed some running leggings to go under shorts many years back when doing a run that was far colder than I had packed for, and it was proper last minute. The only ones I could find in a local shop long enough were women's surprisingly. I actually love how they feel, how I can move in them, and TBH how my ass looks in them. They've become my go-to clothing for my lazy days at home alone.

I don't know if it was positive or negative. My wife is only ever emotional when she talks about the impact on our daughter. She doesn't ever get upset about our relationship ending. She's so disconnected, but then she will say something about how we're still working on our relationship. Then she'll say that she needs more space, and then maybe she will want to come back to me. I have zero control over this and it's so painful. I have given so much to help her and support her whilst her mum was letting dogs shit all over the house, refusing to answer the door and generally being a pissed alcoholic. I've grown massively in confidence over the decade we've been together, doubled my wages and generally become a much better and more rounded person. She's abandoned me whilst I've had my own challenges though.

We have our first session today. She dropped the "we should divorce" bomb on me two weeks ago today, and she told me "I have tried everything to get past this" Except: Seeing a Doc for depression Speaking to your husband about it Being open about the things that bother her Speaking to a counsellor or therapist on her own Speaking to a counsellor or therapist as a couple As soon as I called her on her BS of "trying everything" she said she would try. I just need to be sure she is trying because she wants to be with me, not just because life is more secure with me.

And now my wife wants a divorce because she doesn't love me any more, but I'm an amazing husband and have only ever treated her in the best way, and I have always been wonderful. Not sure that makes me feel any better. She wants to just throw a decade away of our relationship, and the stability of our lives and our daughters life just because she is depressed and lost in life.

BumSquad was a disappointment. AJ looked good. Enjoyed that card - now we just wait for the Fury postponement.

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I'm pumped for this. Got my mate, brother-in-law and Dad coming over, and we're getting some pizza and drinks. Can't seem to find any kind of loose running order online - seen anything Gavin?

@Dazey- do you know anything about Len's whereabouts, or even a name so we can stalk him? Maybe a prisoner number?

I'm doing an apprenticeship alongside my normal job, and it's really dragging me down. I don't have time to do it - I signed up way back when work was fairly quiet, but we've got a whole bunch of new contracts in the last 6 months. Add in that I am supposed to be getting a promotion in the next month and I can only see this working if I do the apprenticeship in my free time.

Hang on. Did Pappy have the Purple Aki avatar?

Bleach my fucking eyes somebody please

The adverts normally start now for what are essentially savings accounts that tie you in to purchasing from a specific catalogue. You pay in each month to fund Christmas, earn 0% interest on that saving, and then get restricted to purchasing from a select set of stores and often pay more than the best deals on the high street or online. It's a massive scam that preys on people who are unable to leave their damn savings alone. The UK and America are HORRIFIC at teaching people how to manage finances. The fact Dave Ramsey has made so much money from what is the most simple and basic financial advice going simply astounds me.