arnold layne Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 So my parents bitched at me to find a better job and do something with my life. They said in the nicest way possible that I am a lazy, underachieving disappointment. I don't think I am the disappointment. Life is the disappointment. It's a pile of shit. There's no fun in it. You work to keep yourself alive and all the 'supposed fun activities' are boring, and all the fun activities (like drugs and sex) are either bad for you or a bitch to find. I'd like to get fucked up every day but that's just not acceptable in society or realistic unfortunately. It's a bummer. So my options are to be a part of the machine and work some shitty job I'll hate only to to do it again, fight in the military while unmotivated for the cause because at the end of the day war is just bullshit, or kill myself. I'm up in the air. I was content rotting away in my bedroom but now I can't do that anymore. I don't even understand why they put up with me. Having a kid sucks. I hope they're content with just me because they sure as hell aren't getting any legitimate grand children any time soon. No way I'm supporting this 'keeping the species alive movement'. The sad thing is people feel as if there's a purpose. Those poor bastards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chewbacca Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 You need a hobby. Something that makes you happy and that you need to struggle for. That should do the trick. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrandyk Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 You are the poor bastard. Move out of your parent's house. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DirtyDeeds Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 You're such a one-trick pony.Anyway, seriously, go get some therapy, get some exercise, and read some books that interest you and might motivate you toward a hobby that doesn't lead toward a chemical dependency of some sort.And also, make a concerted effort (and it is difficult) to cut down on the porn by at least 90%. I'm not trying to be a pain about it, but it will help you to view relationships, sexuality, and most importantly women in general, in a much healthier light and might make you stop thinking about wanting to have a relationship or at least get laid 24/7 so that these other possibilities are open to you. Tell "elsewhere" that you no longer want to be the "porn sheriff," for your own sake. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wasted Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Living at home is such a drag. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgy Zhukov Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 You are over eighteen right? That means you are held accountable for everything. You are pass that age where there's nothing more for your parents to do but give you advice and from time to time, cash. You need to look deep within, find out what the hell is wrong with you and fix it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Broskirose Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 cutting back on porn is the most bullshit thing i've ever heard. porn is great! don't listen to them nate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desperado Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 You are over eighteen right? That means you are held accountable for everything. You are pass that age where there's nothing more for your parents to do but give you advice and from time to time, cash. You need to look deep within, find out what the hell is wrong with you and fix it.I don't agree with this at all. Life isn't something you choose it's just given to you and your parents are the ones who gives it. So the parents should be the ones whos accountable until they're not needed anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chewbacca Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 cutting back on porn is the most bullshit thing i've ever heard. porn is great! don't listen to them nate.+1000 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arnold layne Posted June 19, 2012 Author Share Posted June 19, 2012 cutting back on porn is the most bullshit thing i've ever heard. porn is great! don't listen to them nate.It's either porn or I start drinking everyday. For my own safety I choose porn. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuddMckagan Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Try and find a hobby.Jacking off doesn't count. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
highvoltage Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Nah, see you're taking the view that you HAVE to work a shitty job... and you don't. Make a career decision based on the lifestyle it offers... do something you're interested in that gives you flexibility. If you don't know what you want, go run backpacker tours off a bus in Europe or something for a year... if nothing comes to you, do something else that gives you some life experience for another year.It honestly sounds like you're making excuses (like: "life is shitty and underwhelming") to stay locked up stoned/drunk/whatever in your room, because you're too scared to go outside and try and make something of your life. Grow a pair and go do something - because good things in life don't just come to you. You have to go out and find them yourself.I don't know a thing about you, but I'll assume you have your health and mobility (if the military is an option) - which puts you leagues ahead of plenty of other people I know who can't walk, have cancer, etc in terms of your options available. Maybe pause, reflect on and appreciate that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DirtyDeeds Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Make a schedule for your day. Give yourself some structure. I stand by cutting down on porn as a very healthy thing for you to be doing, but if you are not willing to do that, decide that you are limiting yourself to two wanks/porn viewings a day. You wanna play video games? Fine. Make yourself do some kind of work or something constructive from 2:00-3:59, then at 4:00 give yourself an hour to play video games. Make it an incentive, a reward. Don't normalize it. You want to smoke weed and drink Jack Daniels? Fine. Set yourself a reasonable limit and a time where you'll allow yourself to do it, but keep it to that, and make sure you've scheduled in productivity first before then. You are getting a very high tolerance for pleasurable behaviors like drinking, masturbating, and playing video games, and from what you tell us it's taking over your life and thought process. Keep those things as treats, don't make them the norm or else you won't tolerate non-pleasurable activity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rock4eva Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 You sound depressed, if you are serious with this post I would suggest seeing a Dr & get a good job if you don't have one. Nothing flash but something that keeps you occupied & gives you a reason to go out every day.If you can't find a job then do some voluntary work, there should always be other people around who would appreciate you doing little things for them. My husband used to read to the blind when he was out of work & found it fulfilling. Sorry if I come across as the parent point of view but seeing a 20yr old having nothing in his life but porn & drugs is depressing for me. My kids died at 7 & 11 yet they packed so much into their short lives while someone who is able bodied just wants to spend his life in his room wasting away? Go & help someone else be happy & you might just find happiness yourself.Ok, off my soapbox now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DirtyDeeds Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 You sound depressed, if you are serious with this post I would suggest seeing a Dr & get a good job if you don't have one. Nothing flash but something that keeps you occupied & gives you a reason to go out every day.If you can't find a job then do some voluntary work, there should always be other people around who would appreciate you doing little things for them. My husband used to read to the blind when he was out of work & found it fulfilling. Sorry if I come across as the parent point of view but seeing a 20yr old having nothing in his life but porn & drugs is depressing for me. My kids died at 7 & 11 yet they packed so much into their short lives while someone who is able bodied just wants to spend his life in his room wasting away? Go & help someone else be happy & you might just find happiness yourself.Ok, off my soapbox now.Great advice. I was coming back into this thread to add an edit to my post above about volunteer work. I did that and it was a wonderful experience for me. I loved it. And I did it on the advice of someone else who prodded me into it when I didn't really want to do it. But I'm glad they prodded me. Plus it will add structure to your day and that's something that helps. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randy Lahey Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Can't you guys just let Arnold vent? He wasn't asking for your advice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luciusfunk Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Can't you guys just let Arnold vent? He wasn't asking for your advice.Then he should get a blog if he doesn't want advice from anyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DirtyDeeds Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 (edited) Can't you guys just let Arnold vent? He wasn't asking for your advice.Since he so likes comparisons of men and women...He's a guy, and when guys have problems, they tend to want a solution to their complaints. When girls complain, they prefer to have people listen with empathy to their complaints, without it being a solution-oriented affair. I assumed he wanted the guy method.These are just tendencies, by the way. I don't know if social science backs them up, but in news articles and such, it is written as if social science backs it up. Edited June 19, 2012 by DirtyDeeds Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Randy Lahey Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Perhaps he just wants somebody to tell him that there is nothing wrong with him and it is perfectly alright to feel the way he does. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgy Zhukov Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 You are over eighteen right? That means you are held accountable for everything. You are pass that age where there's nothing more for your parents to do but give you advice and from time to time, cash. You need to look deep within, find out what the hell is wrong with you and fix it.I don't agree with this at all. Life isn't something you choose it's just given to you and your parents are the ones who gives it. So the parents should be the ones whos accountable until they're not needed anymore. They are accountable to a certain point. Once you are and adult, life is what you make of it. Don't make stupid excuses why your life sucks. When you are old enough to do shit on your own, you have to get over stupid shit like, oh my dad wouldn't let me do this, my mom embarrassed me, my parents are disappointed. You don't live your life for your parents, you live it for yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DirtyDeeds Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Okay. Arnold, if how you portray yourself on the forum is truly how you are, it is okay to be like that and feel like this for a little while longer, but certainly not forever. And the longer you do let yourself be and feel like this, the harder it will be to change it later.That's the best I could do, Randy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
highvoltage Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Perhaps he just wants somebody to tell him that there is nothing wrong with him and it is perfectly alright to feel the way he does.That's cool if he wants that. Unfortunately, in life you don't always get told what you want to hear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgy Zhukov Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Perhaps he just wants somebody to tell him that there is nothing wrong with him and it is perfectly alright to feel the way he does.That's cool if he wants that. Unfortunately, in life you don't always get told what you want to hear.That is the problem with Internet forums. People hearing only what they want to hear. They just want people to agree with them because this is probably one of the few if not, only place to be right all the time.Then again, you can't convince everyone they are wrong. Then you have these message board fights that hijack threads and 200 pages later nothing gets resolved. It is good that you can think for yourself but so can everyone else.What am I taking about again? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hitmanhart408 Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 your parents are probably right about you. If you weren't what they say you are, they wouldn't have said it and you would be DOING something with yourself. Quit bitching, feeling sorry for yourself, and trying to have others on here feel sorry for you. Get out in the world and DO something with your life. Go to school, go workout, go talk to people. You won't get anything in this world by just ranting about how much your life sucks. I don't feel sorry for you one tiny bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rock4eva Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Okay. Arnold, if how you portray yourself on the forum is truly how you are, it is okay to be like that and feel like this for a little while longer, but certainly not forever. And the longer you do let yourself be and feel like this, the harder it will be to change it later.That's the best I could do, Randy.Perhaps he just wants somebody to tell him that there is nothing wrong with him and it is perfectly alright to feel the way he does.That's cool if he wants that. Unfortunately, in life you don't always get told what you want to hear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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