Axl Roses Future Wife Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 I'm asking everyone here but would like it if some men could give me some advice too. What do I do when my guy best friend admits he's in love with me and I don't feel the same way at all? Please help!!! I don't want to lose this friendship and I don't know how to deal with this..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AxlsFavoriteRose Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 have you told him you don't reciprocate his feelings? how long have you been friends? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Axl Roses Future Wife Posted September 14, 2016 Author Share Posted September 14, 2016 We've been friends for six years. And I haven't told him anything yet. I was kinda shocked and I didn't know what to say to him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axl Roses Future Wife Posted September 14, 2016 Author Share Posted September 14, 2016 I might post this in another thread and maybe more people will give me advice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AxlsFavoriteRose Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 i would say be honest. tell him you like him and cherish his friendship but that's it. otherwise you will be putting yourself and him in a bad situation that won't end well. that's my take anyway Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Graeme Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 7 minutes ago, Axl Roses Future Wife said: I might post this in another thread and maybe more people will give me advice. The love/sex/relationship thread is where it should go. I'd advise being honest, but as kind as you can be with that honesty. He's inevitably going to feel awful, rejection's bad at the best of times, rejection from someone close is worse. If you're serious about keeping the friendship alive, once you've made how you feel clear and both had the chance to have an honest conversation about it, take a bit of a sabbatical from contact for at least a few months to let it sink in, so he has time to move on emotionally and start to think of you as just a friend again. Being around each other a lot in the immediate aftermath of something like this is probably not healthy. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Len Cnut Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 Well just tell him you're not interested, simple as that 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axl Roses Future Wife Posted September 14, 2016 Author Share Posted September 14, 2016 4 minutes ago, Wagszilla said: Tell him you're not interested, ask him if he's capable of being friends anyway, and then help him get laid. Oh he's had ample opportunity to get laid. He's good looking and all my girlfriends want to fuck him but he won't because he says he's in love with me...... 10 minutes ago, Graeme said: The love/sex/relationship thread is where it should go. I'd advise being honest, but as kind as you can be with that honesty. He's inevitably going to feel awful, rejection's bad at the best of times, rejection from someone close is worse. If you're serious about keeping the friendship alive, once you've made how you feel clear and both had the chance to have an honest conversation about it, take a bit of a sabbatical from contact for at least a few months to let it sink in, so he has time to move on emotionally and start to think of you as just a friend again. Being around each other a lot in the immediate aftermath of something like this is probably not healthy. Not sure where that thread is. I'm new here. But thanks for your advice. I just don't want to hurt him and being away from him is going to literally suck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axl Roses Future Wife Posted September 14, 2016 Author Share Posted September 14, 2016 24 minutes ago, AxlsFavoriteRose said: i would say be honest. tell him you like him and cherish his friendship but that's it. otherwise you will be putting yourself and him in a bad situation that won't end well. that's my take anyway Yes I am going to have to be honest and tell him. I just don't want to hurt him it's going to hurt me so bad. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AxlsFavoriteRose Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 it's a tricky situation. i wish you luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Len Cnut Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 (edited) How'd you know its gonna hurt him that much? I mean did he tell you as much, that its something hes felt for ages? How'd you know its not just an infatuation? And anyway its better than doing the dirty on a friend. And what does that say about him that he'd fuck your friend off with his her best friend? Edited September 14, 2016 by Len Cnut Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axl Roses Future Wife Posted September 14, 2016 Author Share Posted September 14, 2016 He told me he's felt that way ever since we met. That's how I know it's going to hurt him. I know him better than most people do. But with this, I had no idea. I guess I'm clueless after all. I feel like shit. I wish I felt the same way but I just don't. And I really don't want our friendship to change but that's inevitable now. He just changed everything. 2 minutes ago, Len Cnut said: How'd you know its gonna hurt him that much? I mean did he tell you as much, that its something hes felt for ages? How'd you know its not just an infatuation? And anyway its better than doing the dirty on a friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AxlsFavoriteRose Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 there was a show that reminds me of this called The Friend Zone ( i think ) on MTV. and the person in love with their friend would like pretend they liked some imaginary person, have the friend come along for "support" then finally tell the friend oh there is no one it's all for you. it was like a car wreck, i didn't want to look but i couldn't help myself! sorry this is not mocking your situation it just jogged my memory about this God awful show Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Len Cnut Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 6 minutes ago, Axl Roses Future Wife said: He told me he's felt that way ever since we met. That's how I know it's going to hurt him. I know him better than most people do. But with this, I had no idea. I guess I'm clueless after all. I feel like shit. I wish I felt the same way but I just don't. And I really don't want our friendship to change but that's inevitable now. He just changed everything. That sounds mildly creepy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axl Roses Future Wife Posted September 14, 2016 Author Share Posted September 14, 2016 I feel betrayed by it. I don't know if that's normal or not but that's how I feel. Like why did he keep it a secret for so long? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZoSoRose Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 1 hour ago, PappyTron said: Just pooped myself Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axl Roses Future Wife Posted September 14, 2016 Author Share Posted September 14, 2016 3 minutes ago, Len Cnut said: That sounds mildly creepy. Yeah I guess I feel the same way too about it. Why didn't he tell me sooner? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Graeme Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 19 minutes ago, Axl Roses Future Wife said: Yeah I guess I feel the same way too about it. Why didn't he tell me sooner? Sometimes you just can't, the moment never feels right, or your doubts get the better of you, somebody else walks into the room when you feel like you've finally worked up the courage... I've been there, in love with someone for years and never said anything about it, but being a "creep" to me implies that you've some underhanded malicious intent towards someone. I think there's a big difference between that and not being able to overcome the nerves to say. The day I finally did say something was one of the scariest moments of my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axl Roses Future Wife Posted September 14, 2016 Author Share Posted September 14, 2016 Thanks @Graeme that makes me feel a bit better <3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snake-Pit Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 (edited) Just be like 'I like women' and then try and forget about it. @Axl Roses Future Wife; IDK, what can you do? Has he been single for these past 6 years of knowing him? Maybe if you took him out 'on the pull' break the ice with other pretty ladies he might like, I know people should find their own God damn partners in this world, but it shouldn't hurt (in the long run) if you played cupid and got him off you and into someone else. Edited September 14, 2016 by Snake-Pit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AxlsFavoriteRose Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 17 minutes ago, Snake-Pit said: Maybe if you took him out 'on the pull' what does that mean?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snake-Pit Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 1 hour ago, Axl Roses Future Wife said: Yes I am going to have to be honest and tell him. I just don't want to hurt him it's going to hurt me so bad. Maybe it's over, maybe if you found a man, it'll break him? Maybe it's kind to be cruel, wish him luck, and ask yourself; why you don't like him in that way, and if the answer's are all clear then let him go, so you both can rest assured that if you find someone it won't break him on the inside for it not being him. Just now, AxlsFavoriteRose said: what does that mean?? Try and get him laid; 'play Cupid' 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snake-Pit Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 There's an old adage that goes 'High risk, high reward' - He might view losing your friendship as 'the high risk', but justifying it by getting with you being 'the high reward'@Axl Roses Future Wife Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AxlsFavoriteRose Posted September 14, 2016 Share Posted September 14, 2016 18 minutes ago, Snake-Pit said: Maybe it's over, maybe if you found a man, it'll break him? Maybe it's kind to be cruel, wish him luck, and ask yourself; why you don't like him in that way, and if the answer's are all clear then let him go, so you both can rest assured that if you find someone it won't break him on the inside for it not being him. Try and get him laid; 'play Cupid' so like a wing man ( or wing woman i guess. ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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