Gracii Guns Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 Since the kitten arrived, my husband has been getting far fewer hugs from me. I now understand cat ladies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny Drama Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 Pics or GTFO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gracii Guns Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 Pics or GTFO.See the cat ownership thread. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gnrhobo Posted October 23, 2015 Share Posted October 23, 2015 2 months ago I started talking to a new coworker, we hit it off quick. Turns out she had a crush on me and as a result we banged on the second date. Well a few dates later, I learned I had feelings for her too. Despite my best efforts, my attraction and lust came at her with full force. She became the only thing on my mind. We agreed to keep it a secret, but it didn't take long for her to open her mouth and as a result, everyone at work knows our little secret. To make matters worse it is quite obvious my boss has it for her and it is obvious she flirts with him as well. This is a huge red flag to me. I have considered dumping her multiple times. Once on her 'week', I asked if she 'wanted it to be over.' She burst into tears.I guess the bottom of it all is that I don't trust her. She has tremendous self-confidence issues and jealousy problems. Ironically, I do as well but try my best to refrain from exposing them. I am considering just asking whether she has feelings for this other guy. If those two get together my fucking pride will go down the shitter. That'll be the end of my job and my girlfriend will only be an ex. I am such a sensitive little fucker. I hate it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Len Cnut Posted October 23, 2015 Share Posted October 23, 2015 2 months ago I started talking to a new coworker, we hit it off quick. Turns out she had a crush on me and as a result we banged on the second date.Well a few dates later, I learned I had feelings for her too. Despite my best efforts, my attraction and lust came at her with full force. She became the only thing on my mind.We agreed to keep it a secret, but it didn't take long for her to open her mouth and as a result, everyone at work knows our little secret.To make matters worse it is quite obvious my boss has it for her and it is obvious she flirts with him as well.This is a huge red flag to me.I have considered dumping her multiple times. Once on her 'week', I asked if she 'wanted it to be over.' She burst into tears.I guess the bottom of it all is that I don't trust her. She has tremendous self-confidence issues and jealousy problems. Ironically, I do as well but try my best to refrain from exposing them.I am considering just asking whether she has feelings for this other guy.If those two get together my fucking pride will go down the shitter. That'll be the end of my job and my girlfriend will only be an ex.I am such a sensitive little fucker. I hate it.Hold back on the emotional attachment, keep shagging her on the side, treat her like a side-piece or a FWB until such time as she reciprocates with the kinds of feelings you apparently have for her. In short, don't play yourself, chill out, take things easy. Only known her two months, whats the rush? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
streak Posted October 23, 2015 Share Posted October 23, 2015 mate, run. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gnrhobo Posted October 23, 2015 Share Posted October 23, 2015 mate, run.My thoughts exactly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris1989 Posted October 23, 2015 Share Posted October 23, 2015 She loves me yeah, yeah, yeah!Life is good. I feel very content. Hell, with a beautiful girlfriend and the keys to your new house, what's not to love? 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomfriend Posted October 24, 2015 Share Posted October 24, 2015 (edited) Thirded on the running.She loves me yeah, yeah, yeah!Life is good. I feel very content. Hell, with a beautiful girlfriend and the keys to your new house, what's not to love?Hi, I'm Troy Mclure and you might remember me from.. Edited October 24, 2015 by tomfriend Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomfriend Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 So girl I've been seeing calls me tonight, it was bad news. Too ill for our plans for tomorrow. Talked for a while. Still hung up smiling. Uh oh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoulMonster Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 I am delightful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axl_morris Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 guys im friend zoned. need advice. heeeeelpp!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris1989 Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 You can escape friend zone, but it's difficult. I don't know how I managed it, so cannot give advice. Nobody can give advice. All this forum does is criticize. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Len Cnut Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 You can escape friend zone, but it's difficult. I don't know how I managed it, so cannot give advice. Nobody can give advice. All this forum does is criticize. Don't say that, you're not supposed to say that, you're supposed to go 'i done it wiv my massive nob bruv!!!' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris1989 Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 That's just a bonus for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axl_morris Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 how long were you friendzoned for? you are like a master right now!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris1989 Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 Got knocked back in the June or July, then turned it around by November. I'm not a pro or have any special trick, it's simply that I think she wasn't considering me due to the age gap, but then as she spent more time with me the age gap no longer existed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoulMonster Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 The age gap disappeared? That's amazing! We see so few everyday applications of the theory of relativity. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheapJon Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 guys im friend zoned.need advice. heeeeelpp!!I'd say find a new girl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomfriend Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 guys im friend zoned.need advice. heeeeelpp!!You say "look, I want to be more than just friends".I know, I'm fucking remarkable aren't I. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Len Cnut Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 guys im friend zoned.need advice. heeeeelpp!!You say "look, I want to be more than just friends".I know, I'm fucking remarkable aren't I.Insightful, i wept, truly i did Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Glow Inc. Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 You say it and you respectfully walk away ( and give up on her ) if she isn't interested in giving you that.Most guys don't have the courage to give up and would rather stay in a fake friendship in the hope that she will someday change her mind...They never do and you end up wasting your time and getting attached to someone who will never see you as more than a friend until you know your worth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bono Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 (edited) You say it and you respectfully walk away ( and give up on her ) if she isn't interested in giving you that.Most guys don't have the courage to give up and would rather stay in a fake friendship in the hope that she will someday change her mind...They never do and you end up wasting your time and getting attached to someone who will never see you as more than a friend until you know your worth.The thing about that too is it's not really giving up. It's just respecting the fact that you want more from that person than just friends. The best way to go about this is if the girl says all the cliches that you're a great guy and you do have a connection AS FRIENDS and she really hopes you can remain friends you just gotta be straight up honest and say no. Say it in a way that makes her realize she's losing a great guy. Like "I'm really sorry but I don't agree. I feel there is something more between us and by staying friends it's unfair to me as I will always want more from you and in turn that will be unfair to you as you'll always question my motives for being your friend. I honestly felt we had something worth more than just friends but if you don't feel that way then it's best we no longer see each other at all, as hard as that will be"You word it something like that and be sincere about it and walk away. You have to be prepared to never really see her again BUT the funny thing about this is the girl often times will come back to you. She sees you in a different light. She sees you're confident, she sees you can survive without her, she sees you know what you want and aren't willing to settle for less. You also have to make it where she's no longer a top priority if she does come back. You can't jump the minute she texts or calls or wants to make plans. You have to make it clear to her that you're not a yo-yo. This is where it gets tricky though because you do still want to see her at some point but in a way you have to let her take the lead an initiate things. If you eventually accept an invite to get together you can't act all in love. It's now her turn to work for you because you already did that and she turned you down. She wanted just friends and you didn't, so now you gotta be careful that she's not playing you because she knows exactly how you feel. Yes she misses you but does she now see you as date material or not.Isn't dating wonerful Edited October 27, 2015 by Bono 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoulMonster Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 guys im friend zoned.need advice. heeeeelpp!!Masturbation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomfriend Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 guys im friend zoned.need advice. heeeeelpp!!Masturbation.Yeah, you probably won't be in the friendzone much longer once you've done that in front of her. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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